Category Archives: Conscious Love

Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t (updated)

Posted on January 17, 2013 by

(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only *if* we develop and … Continue reading →

Posted in "Man's Search for Meaning", "Siddhartha", Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Critical Thinking, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Hermann Hesse, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Luke 6:32-35, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Perspective, Proactivity, Reactive, Real Love, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Examined Life, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Viktor Frankl, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 13 Comments

Love, the Feeling, versus Love, the Capacity (Immature Love versus Mature Love, part 2)

Posted on January 8, 2013 by

. A properly (or fully) developed human being is a Loving human being. Love, ultimately, is a capacity. A capacity that develops as the result of developing many other capacities and virtues and behavioral predispositions. Some of these are of … Continue reading →

Posted in chapter 13, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Friendship, Generosity, Gratitude, Honesty, Immature Love, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Perspective, Real Love, Self-Love, Spiritual Growth, Thích Nhất Hạnh, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

Why Real Love Is So Difficult & Rare (updated 12-26-2012)

Posted on December 26, 2012 by

. (This is an updated version of a post I first publish on Feb 28, 2012 — “Why Real Love Is So Difficult & Rare“) . . “We have lost our sense of values: when your fence falls, you mend … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Czeslaw Milosz, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Generosity, Honesty, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Thích Nhất Hạnh, Thomas Merton, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Mature Love v Immature Love

Posted on October 11, 2012 by

. Erich Fromm, in “The Art of Loving,” wrote, “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you’.” The first statement is based on dependency—I am dependent on you, … Continue reading →

Posted in "Reverence for Life", "The Art of Loving", Albert Schweitzer, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Death, Dependency, Emotional Maturity, Erich Fromm, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Rilke, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 14 Comments

Thomas Merton on Love

Posted on August 1, 2012 by

. “Get a life in which you are not alone. Find people you love, and who love you. And remember that love is not leisure, it is work.” – Anna Quindlen When we are leading a life based on real … Continue reading →

Posted in "The Velveteen Rabbit", 1 John 4:16-18, Anna Quindlen, Chris Rock, Conscious Love, Courage, Emotional Maturity, Intimate Relationships, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Schnarch, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Thomas Merton, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Romantic Love Dies from a Lack of Love

Posted on April 26, 2012 by

. “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” … Continue reading →

Posted in Anaïs Nin, Ayya Khema, Conscience, Conscious Love, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , | 23 Comments

Don’t Wait!

Posted on April 18, 2012 by

Death—either an actual brush with it or slowing down in our daily lives enough to begin deeply and honestly contemplating it in a way that allows us to actually get a sense of what it will be like to know … Continue reading →

Posted in Albert Schweitzer, Conscious Love, Death, Generosity, Gratitude, Intimate Relationships, Living the Questions, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Meister Eckhart, Mental Health, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

“What Love Is” – by Ayya Khema

Posted on April 12, 2012 by

. I came across a quote/excerpt yesterday on another blog that I frequent and I wanted to know more about both the author of the quote/excerpt and the excerpt itself. In particular I wanted to see if I could find … Continue reading →

Posted in Ayya Khema, Conscious Love, Generosity, Gratitude, Intimate Relationships, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , | 2 Comments

Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy (updated 4-2-12)

Posted on April 2, 2012 by

. (This is an update of my post “Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy” from November 18, 2011) . Intimacy For most people intimacy equates with self-presentation, a process much … Continue reading →

Posted in Anthony Robbins, Conscious Love, Generosity, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Joseph Campbell, Ken Wilber, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

The Relationship Between How We Think & How We Love

Posted on March 22, 2012 by

. Or “Learning How to Think More Clearly In Order to Learn How to Love Better,” or “The Relationship Between How Clearly We Think & How Grateful and Appreciative We Are and How Well We Love“ How we think—how clearly … Continue reading →

Posted in (CBT) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Buddha, Conscious Love, Czeslaw Milosz, Dr Nicholas Jenner, Emotional Maturity, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Real Love, Self-Love, Truth, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments