Category Archives: Intimacy

Love *Is* Difficult

Posted on November 29, 2012 by

. Love is difficult. It is difficult to learn how to really love another person. It is difficult to learn how to love oneself. Loving another means caring deeply for that person, being good to that person, wanting the best … Continue reading →

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Thoreau on Love

Posted on July 14, 2012 by

Love is a severe critic.  Hate (as well as self-centeredness and self-interest) can pardon more than love.  The heart is blind; but Love is not blind.  None of the gods is so discriminating.  We may love and not elevate one … Continue reading →

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How Close Does the Dragon’s Spume Have to Come to You, to Me, to Any of Us, Before We “Get It”?

Posted on June 27, 2012 by

“If You Knew” – Ellen Bass What if you knew you’d be the last to touch someone? If you were taking tickets, for example, at the theater, tearing them, giving back the ragged stubs, you might take care to touch … Continue reading →

Posted in "If You Knew", Death, Ellen Bass, Gurdjieff, Honesty, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Mental Health, Real Love, Truth, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 11 Comments

The Ego versus the Soul in Relationships

Posted on June 20, 2012 by

. For the ego, all relationships are ultimately recreational. They exist to accessorize the ego, add fun, gratification, entertainment, pleasure, comfort, convenience, utility to a person’s life, to provide escape. They are not there to add depth, challenge, greater awareness, … Continue reading →

Posted in "If the Buddha Dated", "Real", "The Velveteen Rabbit", Charlotte Kasl, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Margery Williams, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 11 Comments

Romantic Love Dies from a Lack of Love

Posted on April 26, 2012 by

. “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” … Continue reading →

Posted in Anaïs Nin, Ayya Khema, Conscience, Conscious Love, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , | 23 Comments

The Brain On Love, or “It’s Relatively Easy to Find Someone Who’ll Say ‘I Love You’—It’s Much Harder to Find Someone Who Actually Will Do So”

Posted on April 5, 2012 by

. (This is my abridgment of a March 24, 2012 article in the NYTimes. The original article can be found here—http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/03/24/the-brain-on-love/ . I have highlighted and bold-printed what I thought was really interesting about the article and added my own … Continue reading →

Posted in "Alley by the Lake", Alan Paton, Diane Ackerman, Interpersonal Neurobiology, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Leo Buscaglia, Leonid Afremov, Mature Love, Mental Health, New York Times, Real Love, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy (updated 4-2-12)

Posted on April 2, 2012 by

. (This is an update of my post “Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy” from November 18, 2011) . Intimacy For most people intimacy equates with self-presentation, a process much … Continue reading →

Posted in Anthony Robbins, Conscious Love, Generosity, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Joseph Campbell, Ken Wilber, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

When It Comes to Love, We ALL Start Out As Beginners . . .

Posted on March 2, 2012 by

When it comes to love, we all start out as beginners. It’s like picking up a tennis racquet for the first time. We may like to think that we already know how to hit the ball, and that with a … Continue reading →

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Krishnamurti on Relationships & Self-Knowledge

Posted on February 22, 2012 by

The following are some of my favorite Krishnamurti quotes and excerpts that I have accumulated over the years. And some of these may include my own amending and modifications, because when I read, I don’t just consider what the author … Continue reading →

Posted in Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Kierkegaard, Krishnamurti, M. Scott Peck, Real Love, Schnarch, Spiritual Growth, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Love at the Extremes: Loving the Unlovable, Loving the Unloving

Posted on February 14, 2012 by

DEAR World, Happy Valentine’s Day! This is my (brief) love letter to you, to the world, or at least to those people who happen to happen upon this blog. (My longer love letter to the world for the day can … Continue reading →

Posted in Death, Emotional Maturity, Gratitude, Intimacy, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 13 Comments