Category Archives: Love is a Choice

Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t (updated)

Posted on January 17, 2013 by

(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only *if* we develop and … Continue reading →

Posted in "Man's Search for Meaning", "Siddhartha", Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Critical Thinking, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Hermann Hesse, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Luke 6:32-35, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Perspective, Proactivity, Reactive, Real Love, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Examined Life, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Viktor Frankl, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 13 Comments

How to Fall in Love Again

Posted on December 7, 2012 by

(This is an updated version of a page I first posted over a year ago . . . )  . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . “I have no … Continue reading →

Posted in C.S. Lewis, GinaParris.com, Glennon Melton, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Momastery, Real Love, Self-Extension, The Road Less Traveled, Thomas Merton, What is Love?, Zig Ziglar | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

How Asking Just *One* Question Can Save Your Relationship

Posted on October 25, 2012 by

It’s easy to fall into a rut with your partner, to let things get stale, boring, monotonous, routine, to take each other for granted. But that’s not Love.  That’s not what Real Love does.  Genuine Love is about cherishing the … Continue reading →

Posted in Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Real Love | Tagged , , , , | 9 Comments

The Heart of Love: Who to Exclude & Why

Posted on March 8, 2012 by

. . For those of us who are truly trying to grow spiritually, the question of “who am I to love and how?”—and its inverse, “who am I not to love or not to give my attention and care to … Continue reading →

Posted in 365daysofcourage.wordpress.com, Intimate Relationships, Kierkegaard, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, Luke 10:25-37, Matthew 25: 31-46, Matthew 25:40, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Thomas Merton, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Love Languages

Posted on March 7, 2012 by

Maybe. . . . I think that perhaps when we’re very young or when we’re just beginners in love, or perhaps if we were raised in a household where love was given in a very idiosyncratic and inconsistent way and … Continue reading →

Posted in "The Five Love Languages", Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Mature Love, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , | 17 Comments

When It Comes to Love, We ALL Start Out As Beginners . . .

Posted on March 2, 2012 by

When it comes to love, we all start out as beginners. It’s like picking up a tennis racquet for the first time. We may like to think that we already know how to hit the ball, and that with a … Continue reading →

Posted in Alan Paton, Antilove, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Emotional Maturity, Gandhi, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Leo Buscaglia, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Rilke, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

The Learning of Love & Gratitude

Posted on February 7, 2012 by

. “The hardest arithmetic to master is the one which enables us to count our blessings.” – Eric Hoffer “When it comes to life the critical thing is whether we take things for granted or take them with gratitude.” – … Continue reading →

Posted in C.S. Lewis, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Erich Fromm, G. K. Chesterton, Gratitude, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, James Hollis, Krishnamurti, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, M. Scott Peck, Marianne Williamson, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Rilke, Schnarch, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Road Less Traveled, Waking Up, What is Love?, Writing | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

It Changes EVERYTHING! (part 2)

Posted on January 31, 2012 by

I was reading through another blog this morning, and as I read through one of her posts I came across the following paragraph and I thought it to be very wise and well-stated. And then I just started writing my … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Road Less Traveled, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

It changes EVERYTHING!

Posted on January 30, 2012 by

There seems to be a double standard at the heart of most intimate relationships, and that is that we tend to consistently expect the best for ourselves while not nearly as often expecting the best out of ourselves. We want our … Continue reading →

Posted in Anthony Robbins, Antilove, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Gandhi, Generosity, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, Matthew 7: 1-6, Mature Love, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

How To Fall In Love Again (updated 1/10/12)

Posted on January 10, 2012 by

“I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person. But I do know that if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after … Continue reading →

Posted in C.S. Lewis, Conscious Love, Courage, Emotional Maturity, Gandhi, GinaParris.com, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments