Category Archives: Love is a Decision

Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t (updated)

Posted on January 17, 2013 by

(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only *if* we develop and … Continue reading →

Posted in "Man's Search for Meaning", "Siddhartha", Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Critical Thinking, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Hermann Hesse, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Luke 6:32-35, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Perspective, Proactivity, Reactive, Real Love, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Examined Life, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Viktor Frankl, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 13 Comments

How to Fall in Love Again

Posted on December 7, 2012 by

(This is an updated version of a page I first posted over a year ago . . . )  . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . “I have no … Continue reading →

Posted in C.S. Lewis, GinaParris.com, Glennon Melton, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Momastery, Real Love, Self-Extension, The Road Less Traveled, Thomas Merton, What is Love?, Zig Ziglar | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

How Asking Just *One* Question Can Save Your Relationship

Posted on October 25, 2012 by

It’s easy to fall into a rut with your partner, to let things get stale, boring, monotonous, routine, to take each other for granted. But that’s not Love.  That’s not what Real Love does.  Genuine Love is about cherishing the … Continue reading →

Posted in Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Real Love | Tagged , , , , | 9 Comments

It Changes EVERYTHING! (part 2)

Posted on January 31, 2012 by

I was reading through another blog this morning, and as I read through one of her posts I came across the following paragraph and I thought it to be very wise and well-stated. And then I just started writing my … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Road Less Traveled, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

How To Fall In Love Again (updated 1/10/12)

Posted on January 10, 2012 by

“I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person. But I do know that if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after … Continue reading →

Posted in C.S. Lewis, Conscious Love, Courage, Emotional Maturity, Gandhi, GinaParris.com, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Happy Birthday: Intimacy & the Birth of One’s (Deepest) Self

Posted on January 9, 2012 by

This is what intimacy is all about, in my opinion: it’s about having some real depth to oneself, continuing to develop your own depths, yet finding another who is also similarly and compatibly deep, and sharing your depth and exploring … Continue reading →

Posted in "The God Who Loves You", C.S. Lewis, Carl Dennis, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Death, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Rilke, Sarah Ruhl, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

How to Ruin Your Relationship

Posted on December 23, 2011 by

I watched this 90 sec video this morning, and in it psychologist Harriet Lerner hits on about the three or four things that a person can do to destroy his or her relationship–http://www.aol.com/video/youve-got-harriet-lerner/517234776/?icid=maing-grid7%7Cmain5%7Cvideo-module%7Csec3_lnk1%7C122475 So how do you ruin a relationship? – 1.  … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscious Love, Emotional Maturity, Harriet Lerner, Immature Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Real Love, Self-Extension, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , | 2 Comments

The Representative & As Good As It Gets

Posted on November 21, 2011 by

Most people enter into relationships as a more or less untenable or false version of themselves—the curb appeal version of themselves; what Chris Rock calls the “representative” (see 2:10-2:40 of the following clip — [caution: strong language!])— Relationships—easy to get into, … Continue reading →

Posted in "As Good As It Gets", Chris Rock, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Dependency, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, The Dalai Lama, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t

Posted on November 11, 2011 by

(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only if—if—we  develop and exercise … Continue reading →

Posted in "Man's Search for Meaning", Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Dependency, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Proactivity, Reactive, Responsibility, Self-Love, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Road Less Traveled, Viktor Frankl, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Real Love & The Examined Life

Posted on November 2, 2011 by

We naturally tend to speak to others in our own love language, meaning we try to love others in the way we would want to be loved, in ways that speak love to us. This is just part of being … Continue reading →

Posted in "The Denial of Death", Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Ernest Becker, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Spiritual Growth, The Road Less Traveled, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments