Category Archives: Mental Health

When It Comes to Love & Your Relationships Are You Committed or Just Interested?

Posted on March 13, 2013 by

. . There’s a difference between being interested in something and being committed to something.  When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when it’s convenient.  When you’re committed to something, you make the time to do it. … Continue reading →

Posted in Kenneth Blanchard, Love is a Commitment, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, The Examined Life, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Passion & Reason: Following Your Head & Following Your Heart (or Tuning Both & Following Both)

Posted on February 17, 2013 by

. . We’re all at the helm of something with an impressive amount of horsepower—this body, with its heart, ego, and genitalia, each full of their own passions, motivations, preferences, desires, aversions.  The ego wants fame, attention, power, immortality, runs … Continue reading →

Posted in Emotional Maturity, Gibran, M. Scott Peck, Mental Health, The Examined Life, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Love (& a Whitman’s Sampler)

Posted on February 14, 2013 by

. “For children love is a feeling; for adults, it is a decision. Children wait to learn if their love is true by seeing how long it lasts; adults make their love true by never wavering from their commitment.” ― … Continue reading →

Posted in M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Orson Scott Card, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, The Examined Life, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 20 Comments

Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t (updated)

Posted on January 17, 2013 by

(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only *if* we develop and … Continue reading →

Posted in "Man's Search for Meaning", "Siddhartha", Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Critical Thinking, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Hermann Hesse, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Luke 6:32-35, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Perspective, Proactivity, Reactive, Real Love, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Examined Life, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Viktor Frankl, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 13 Comments

Criticism, Critical Thinking, and Love

Posted on January 5, 2013 by

. One of the running themes throughout all of my blogs and many blog posts has been encouraging anyone who reads or strays across these posts and pages to try and lead as examined and reflective a life as possible. … Continue reading →

Posted in Critical Thinking, Criticism, Denial, John Kenneth Galbraith, M. Scott Peck, Matthew 7: 1-6, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, The Examined Life, Truth, Winston Churchill | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 11 Comments

Why Real Love Is So Difficult & Rare (updated 12-26-2012)

Posted on December 26, 2012 by

. (This is an updated version of a post I first publish on Feb 28, 2012 — “Why Real Love Is So Difficult & Rare“) . . “We have lost our sense of values: when your fence falls, you mend … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Czeslaw Milosz, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Generosity, Honesty, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Thích Nhất Hạnh, Thomas Merton, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

The Real Meaning of “Carpe Diem” (The bus *will* stop)

Posted on December 24, 2012 by

. “It’s only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth—and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, … Continue reading →

Posted in "Dead Poets Society", Abraham Maslow, Carpe Diem, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, G. K. Chesterton, Generosity, Glennon Melton, Gratitude, Kindness, Maslow, Mental Health, Momastery, Naomi Shihab Nye, Perspective, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

*DO* Carpe Diem

Posted on December 17, 2012 by

. *DO* Carpe Diem (& *Do* Hug Your Children & Spouse More, and *Do* Begin Much More Often with the End in Mind) . . “The way to begin loving anything is to realize that it might be lost.” …… … Continue reading →

Posted in "If You Knew", "Shadowlands", Ellen Bass, Glennon Melton, Gratitude, Henri-Frédéric, Mature Love, Mental Health, Momastery, Perspective, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments

Love *Is* Difficult

Posted on November 29, 2012 by

. Love is difficult. It is difficult to learn how to really love another person. It is difficult to learn how to love oneself. Loving another means caring deeply for that person, being good to that person, wanting the best … Continue reading →

Posted in Difficulty, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is Not a Feeling, Mental Health, Real Love, Rilke, Truth, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

The Problem with Thanksgiving (or “Why Every Day Should Be Thanksgiving”)

Posted on November 22, 2012 by

. First off, this will not be a curmudgeonly tough-minded rant where I rage rage against how commercialize things are at this time of year and how “Black Friday” is starting earlier and earlier, so much so that it is now encroaching more and … Continue reading →

Posted in "Calm Before the Storm", "Otherwise", "The Secret Life of Bees", (Luke 10:38-42), “Thanks”, Eckhart Tolle, Gratitude, Gurdjieff, Jane Kenyon, Louie Schwartzberg, Mary Baine Campbell, Maslow, Melody Beattie, Mental Health, Momastery, ProfessionsforPeace.com, Robert Fulghum, Spiritual Growth, Sue Monk Kidd, Thanksgiving, Truth, W. S. Merwin, Waking Up | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments