The Relationship Between Learning How to Think More Clearly & Learning How to Love Better

A well-presented and articulated blog post. Most children typically display many of 10 cognitive distortions that Dr. Jenner delineates–it’s part of thinking like a child. But part of truly being an adult means putting away childish things–i.e., outgrowing (or correcting) these cognitive distortions and developing a more realistic (less distorted) and a more fact-based relationship with reality. The refusal to do so marks a refusal to grow up. That means that every time we opt to deal with a life difficulty by employing a cognitive distortion we are reinforcing what is childish in us and stunting what is healthier and what wants to grow in us and help us grow.


About John

I am a married, 46-year old, Midwesterner, with four children. My primary interest is in leading a very examined and decent and Loving life; my interests that are related to this and that feed into this include (and are not limited to) -- psychology, philosophy, poetry, critical thinking, photography, soccer, tennis, chess, bridge.
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6 Responses to The Relationship Between Learning How to Think More Clearly & Learning How to Love Better

  1. HI John…thanks for the reblog

  2. Julie says:

    Yes. Thank you for the reinforcement.

    • John says:

      Hello Julie – Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to read and comment! I am glad the post resonated with you. 🙂

      Kindest regards,


  3. granbee says:

    This maladaptive thinking stresses me almost daily because of its presence taking over my elderly neighbor’s life more and more! Every time I glimpse even a speck of more mature thinking on her part, I encourage and support her.

    • John says:

      Exactly–reinforce and praise what is straight and try as best as one human being is able to to help another not think in falacious and distorted and self-defeating ways!

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