How to Be Truly Happy In Life — And How & When to Start


We’ll worth the watch.  It’s how a real sense of community and brotherhood/sisterhood begins — by really sharing what’s affected us (affecting us) deeply.

I often wonder when I’m interacting with some people, have they ever lost anyone?  How many of their loved ones have died?  How many people who they’ve deeply cared about have they seen die either suddenly, or waste away due to cancer?

It would make conversations different.  Oh, this person has lost both of his/her parents and was touched deeply by their deaths.  Or this person hasn’t really yet lost anyone that s/he cares about.  Or this person lost her/his mom, but their mom lived 2000 miles away and they basically just flew back for the funeral.

Knowing this sort of personal information lets us know much better where a person is coming from, how much perspective a person has (or does not have).

John Lennon - happiness

About John

I am a married, 46-year old, Midwesterner, with four children. My primary interest is in leading a very examined and decent and Loving life; my interests that are related to this and that feed into this include (and are not limited to) -- psychology, philosophy, poetry, critical thinking, photography, soccer, tennis, chess, bridge.
This entry was posted in Authenticity, Bonding, Community, Death, Friendship, Intimacy, Kindness, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Perspective, The Examined Life, Truth, Vulnerability and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

2 Responses to How to Be Truly Happy In Life — And How & When to Start

  1. It would open our eyes to so much! We would walk around with more patience and compassion, and we would not take so much personally. Thank you, John.

    • John says:

      Agreed, Kristin! And it would create much more of a real community–people who are real about themselves and their pains and wounds, people who show their vulnerability, and people who also respect other people’s vulnerabilities and soft spots.

      Thanks for reading and commenting, Kristin.

      Kindest regards,


Comments (feel free to speak your mind and even to disagree!)

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s