These are some of my all-time favorite books on the subject of Love and relationships. I have found these books to be incredibly wise and insightful and even transformational . . .
“The Road Less Traveled” by M. Scott Peck, M.D. (Psychiatrist)
This book is a classic! The entire book is eye-opening and transformational–the first two sections in particular (Section I: Discipline; and Section II: Love)–if read carefully, thoughtfully, deliberately, and slowly. This book truly is a must read!
“Passionate Marriage” by David Schnarch, Ph.D.
Word for word, this book is as powerful and potentially transformational as Peck’s “The Road Less Traveled.” So much of what Schnarch talks about dovetails so nicely with what Peck is delineating or with helps fill in what was missing in Peck’s discussion of love and relationships. “The Road Less Traveled” and “Passionate Marriage” are my top two go-to books on love and relationships, and even life. To read these two books slowly and deliberately is to be rewarded with a new point of view that can change your life and your relationships radically and deeply for the better.
“The Four Loves” by C. S. Lewis
Another one of my all-time favorite books on the subject. Lewis wisely and beautifully discusses and describes the four loves–Affection, Friendship, Eros, and Charity. “To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket- safe, dark, motionless, airless—it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.” (From the book)
One of the keys to reading and learning that I stumbled on early on was reading who and what my favorite authors read. One of Peck’s favorites was Erich Fromm. And in many ways, Peck’s thinking and writing is a continuation of and deepening of many of the lines of thought that Fromm had opened up. “The Art of Loving” is a classic.
“The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, Ph.D.
A wonderful and encouraging book. Provides a very hope-filled and inspiring and practical way of more tangibly showing love to your partner. When we genuinely love another, we need to stretch ourselves so that we communicate our love in a way that is not only meaningful and natural to us, but that is also meaningful and natural to our partner.
Krishnamurti is a no-holds bar truth-teller–which means I love his style and his writings! If you can stand the heat and his honesty, he will definitely provide you with plenty of good food for thought.
A beautifully written and thought-provoking book that suggests that the highest form of love possible between two adults isn’t romantic love, but a much deeper and lasting love based on a shared common search for real inner development and true personal and moral growth. I highly recommend this book!
“A Return to Love” by Marianne Williamson
The preface and the first six sections of this book (up to and including the section on “Relationships”–and especially this section) are the parts that by far I have dog-eared, annotated, highlighted the most. I first read this book about 15 years ago, and it has certainly contributed to and clarified and even challenged my thinking on what Love actually is! “The disappearance of romantic fervor doesn’t necessarily spell the end of an otherwise wonderful relationship, except to the ego” (pg. 123); and “A woman once said to me after a situation in which I felt betrayed, ‘I never intended to hurt you.’ I said, ‘But you never intended to love me, either.’ Love is not neutral. It takes a stand” (pg. 166).
* more titles to be added
soon eventually at some point & as warranted*