Tag Archives: Honesty

Genuine Love & Conscience: Truth v Lies

Posted on November 4, 2023 by John

My writings on this blog thus far have largely focused on differentiating Genuine Love — willing and acting towards the best and deepest and highest interests of the other person as an actual distinct and unique human being in their … Continue reading →

Posted in Gospel of John, Gospel of Matthew, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Personal Growth, Real Love, Self-Awareness, Spiritual Growth, The Examined Life | Tagged , , , | Leave a comment

Criticism, Critical Thinking, and Love

Posted on January 5, 2013 by John

. One of the running themes throughout all of my blogs and many blog posts has been encouraging anyone who reads or strays across these posts and pages to try and lead as examined and reflective a life as possible. … Continue reading →

Posted in Critical Thinking, Criticism, Denial, John Kenneth Galbraith, M. Scott Peck, Matthew 7: 1-6, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, The Examined Life, Truth, Winston Churchill | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 12 Comments

What Is This “Love” Thing All About? (Part 1)

Posted on October 26, 2012 by John

. This will be a two part post. Part one will consist of a repost/reblog of an advice column question and the answer that was given in that column. Part two (which will appear sometime in the next few days) … Continue reading →

Posted in "Dear Sugar", "Tiny Beautiful Things", Cheryl Strayed, Courage, Death, Honesty, Intimate Relationships, therumpus.net, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

How Close Does the Dragon’s Spume Have to Come to You, to Me, to Any of Us, Before We “Get It”?

Posted on June 27, 2012 by John

“If You Knew” – Ellen Bass What if you knew you’d be the last to touch someone? If you were taking tickets, for example, at the theater, tearing them, giving back the ragged stubs, you might take care to touch … Continue reading →

Posted in "If You Knew", Death, Ellen Bass, Gurdjieff, Honesty, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Mental Health, Real Love, Truth, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 12 Comments

One of the Main Reasons We Run Away from Love . . .

Posted on June 21, 2012 by John

I posted this on one of my other blogs today–several excerpts from Krishnamurti (one of my FAVORITE thinkers!) and then a few words of my own as well.  Please check out the post and see if any of it resonates … Continue reading →

Posted in Krishnamurti, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Lying, Self-Deception, Resistance to Truth & Reality, and the Pain of Real Growth

Posted on May 17, 2012 by John

I posted this today on one of my other blogs–“Lying, Self-Deception, Resistance to Truth & Reality, and the Pain of Real Growth“–it meshes well with the real inner growth required if we are to learn how to become more genuinely … Continue reading →

Posted in Lao Tzu, M. Scott Peck, Mental Health, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Love & the smaller and LARGER Self

Posted on March 11, 2012 by John

. . “Mindfulness is basically just a particular way of paying attention. It is a way of looking deeply into oneself in the spirit of self-inquiry and self-understanding.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn, “Full Catastrophe Living,” pg. 12 . [W]hat is relationship … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscience, Conscious Love, Intimate Relationships, Jon Kabat-Zinn, Krishnamurti, Mental Health, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 13 Comments

Love & Intimacy: Some Basic Definitions

Posted on November 17, 2011 by John

Intimacy Intimacy means self-revelation.  In other words, intimacy requires self-revelation.  Which means if you think you are in an intimate relationship but you are hiding parts of yourself (whether due to immaturity, trust issues, psychopathology, or for fear of your … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Dependency, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Schnarch, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Thoreau, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Why Real Love Is Not a Feeling

Posted on March 4, 2011 by John

The feeling of love is about oneself—how we feel about a person or how a person makes us feel is completely about us, not the other person. And that’s not love—not real love. Real love is about the other person … Continue reading →

Posted in Courage, Differentiation, Erich Fromm, Love, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , | 23 Comments

Impermanence, Death, Love

Posted on December 16, 2010 by John

From an early age, I have known that life is brief, fleeting, impermanent. I have had these experiences, these overwhelming intimations, where everything around me becomes viscous, where it becomes hideously obvious that there is nothing to cling to here … Continue reading →

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