Category Archives: Self-Love

Self-Acceptance (& Which of Our Possible Selves to Accept)

Posted on July 5, 2013 by John

“Your god-self does not dwell alone in your being.  Much in you is still man, and much in you is not yet man, but a shapeless pygmy that walks asleep in the mist searching for its own awakening.” – Kahlil … Continue reading →

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The Serenity Prayer, Self-Acceptance & Self-Care, and Discernment

Posted on July 2, 2013 by John

. DISCERNMENT.  (Noun.)  A core component of wisdom.  The ability to make fine yet profound/crucial distinctions; the ability to see (comprehend) more clearly what is unclear and obscure. The Serenity Prayer (as it applies to ourselves) God, grant me the … Continue reading →

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Love, the Feeling, versus Love, the Capacity (Immature Love versus Mature Love, part 2)

Posted on January 8, 2013 by John

. A properly (or fully) developed human being is a Loving human being. Love, ultimately, is a capacity. A capacity that develops as the result of developing many other capacities and virtues and behavioral predispositions. Some of these are of … Continue reading →

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Feeding Your FOOL versus Feeding Your CONSCIENCE

Posted on December 14, 2012 by John

. This post is in response to a post on another blog I read and follow–http://momastery.com/blog/2012/12/12/to-all-the-confounders/ . “I must learn to love the fool in me–the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes … Continue reading →

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Changing Yourself & Growing *IS* the Essence of Loving Yourself in a Healthy Way

Posted on August 23, 2012 by John

. I read this on another blog a few days ago . . . You do not have to change in order to love yourself. You have to love yourself in order to change. That means embracing yourself completely, right … Continue reading →

Posted in "Fight Club", "Three Kings", Matthew 18:8-9; Mark 9:43-47, Mature Love, Mental Health, Momastery, Self-Love, Toxic Parents, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

The Relationship Between How We Think & How We Love

Posted on March 22, 2012 by John

. Or “Learning How to Think More Clearly In Order to Learn How to Love Better,” or “The Relationship Between How Clearly We Think & How Grateful and Appreciative We Are and How Well We Love” How we think—how clearly … Continue reading →

Posted in (CBT) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Buddha, Conscious Love, Czeslaw Milosz, Dr Nicholas Jenner, Emotional Maturity, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Real Love, Self-Love, Truth, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t

Posted on November 11, 2011 by John

(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only if—if—we  develop and exercise … Continue reading →

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Being “Loving” v being “Lovable”

Posted on October 3, 2011 by John

Which comes first? – being Loving or being lovable? Do we have to love ourselves and see ourselves as lovable before we are able to love others? And what does “loving” ourselves mean in this context? Is it a feeling … Continue reading →

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