Category Archives: Thoreau

Thoreau on Love

Love is a severe critic.  Hate (as well as self-centeredness and self-interest) can pardon more than love.  The heart is blind; but Love is not blind.  None of the gods is so discriminating.  We may love and not elevate one … Continue reading

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Practicing the Art of Losing: Are You a Good Sport in Life or Just Another Troubled Guest Darkening the Earth?

“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” – Norman Cousins On this blog and my others (,, I write a lot about death, mortality, loss, impermanence. And … Continue reading

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Love & Intimacy: Some Basic Definitions

Intimacy Intimacy means self-revelation.  In other words, intimacy requires self-revelation.  Which means if you think you are in an intimate relationship but you are hiding parts of yourself (whether due to immaturity, trust issues, psychopathology, or for fear of your … Continue reading

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Real Love, Gratitude & The True Joy of Life

It’s easy to say “I love you” to another—easier, typically, than behaving or being truly loving to another. But the only way to truly prove those words—“I love you”—to prove our love for another—is by examining our behavior—by looking at … Continue reading

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The Love that We Obtain Too Cheaply & Easily, We Esteem Too Lightly

“The harder the conflict, the more potentially glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheaply and easily, we esteem too lightly, for it is dearness only that gives a thing its value. Heaven knows how to put a proper price … Continue reading

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The “Law of Attraction”

Certainly there’s truth to the “law of attraction.” But the problem is that most people use the so-called “law of attraction” superficially and in a quick-fix sort of way. It’s a given that changing one’s thinking is crucial in changing … Continue reading

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