Monthly Archives: December 2011

Practicing the Art of Losing: Are You a Good Sport in Life or Just Another Troubled Guest Darkening the Earth?

“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” – Norman Cousins On this blog and my others (,, I write a lot about death, mortality, loss, impermanence. And … Continue reading

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On Truth, Personal Responsibility, Love, and the Face of God: Life Lessons from the Film “Dead Man Walking”

Please see my most recent post over at another of my blogs. . . . It’s a continuation of my post below from Christmas Eve and has everything to do with rebirth and real Love.

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The Reason for the Season: “There’s Life without Love, but It’s Really Not Much of a Life”

Or “Get Busy Loving or Get Busy Dying” There is no neutrality in life: every moment of our lives is up for grabs, being claimed by Love and counter-claimed by fear.  Both options, both alternatives, are present in every moment … Continue reading

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How to Ruin Your Relationship

I watched this 90 sec video this morning, and in it psychologist Harriet Lerner hits on about the three or four things that a person can do to destroy his or her relationship– So how do you ruin a relationship? — 1.  … Continue reading

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“Listen to Me . . .” There Is Life without Love, but it’s Really Not Much of a Life . . .

“West Wind #2” – Mary Oliver You are young. So you know everything. You leap into the boat and begin rowing. But listen to me. Without fanfare, without embarrassment, without any doubt, I talk directly to your soul. Listen to … Continue reading

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On the Benefits of Generosity to Your Marriage and Your Children

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a … Continue reading

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The Seven Qualities of an Ideal Partner – How Many of These Characteristics Do You Have?

— And how many of these are you currently striving to develop and improve in? . (*The *majority* of this post is pulled verbatim from an article on another site — — titled “Seven Qualities of an Ideal Partner” by Tamsen … Continue reading

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What is Real Intimacy?

Intimacy means self-disclosure and self-revelation. Put another way, it means transparency. It means tremendous openness, candidness, honesty. Our capacity for intimacy with another is determined by and limited by our level of intimacy (or openness and honesty) with ourselves. When … Continue reading

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