Category Archives: Truth

“Only the Best in Us Can Talk About the Worst in Us; What’s Worst in Us Lies About Itself and its Own Existence.


“Only the best in us can talk about the worst in us; what’s worst in us lies about itself and its own existence.” — David Schnarch, author of “Passionate Marriage” and “Intimacy & Desire“ Also from David Schnarch, Ph.D. — … Continue reading

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M. Scott Peck on Dedication to the Truth


What follows is my abridgment from pp. 44-62 of “The Road Less Traveled.” The third tool of discipline or technique of dealing with the pain of problem-solving, which must continually be employed if our lives are to be healthy and … Continue reading

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The Ego (Ego, Self-Love, Lies, Darkness v Truth, Love, Light, Conscience)


Some thoughts on the ego. First, defining the term. The ego as used herein is not used in the sense that Freud used the term ego (rational principle, reality factor, slave of the Id). Instead, the term ego is being … Continue reading

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Lying, from a Buddhist Perspective


(The following is excerpted and adapted and at points slightly modified from Venerable Master Hsing Yun’s book “Being Good: Buddhist Ethics for Everyday Life,” pp. 101-104, the chapter titled “Not Lying.” That same chapter can also be found here — … Continue reading

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A Ship Lost at Sea


To be completely free from all expectations and demands from others or oneself is to be like a ship lost at sea, a ship without a captain or a navigator. It is to be a ghost ship completely at the … Continue reading

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The Lessons and Liberation in Marriage


“In our society, of course, there is no need to become an adult. One may remain—one is exhorted daily to remain—a child forever. “Marriage is pictured as a form of imprisonment, oppression, boredom, and chafing hindrance. Not all these accusations … Continue reading

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In the Gap Between Stimulus and Response is Where Real Love Occurs


I’ll meet you there (to riff on Rumi). Or better yet: Start meeting your partner there. Choice is sexy. When partners choose when and where and how they want to have sex, that is sexy. When they make a choice to engage … Continue reading

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Love Means Opening Yourself Up


. .   A big part of love means consciously opening yourself up to your beloved and sharing with your partner from what’s best in you. This means consciously choosing and risking being vulnerable and trusting your partner and revealing … Continue reading

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How to Know If You Are REALLY Ready For a Real Relationship


How do you know if you are (or your partner is) really ready for a REAL relationship. Condition 1: You have strong feelings or a strong sense of attraction for another. You are infatuated with him or her. You are … Continue reading

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May God Bless Us All . . . with Discomfort, Anger, Tears, and Foolishness


. . . This is not by any means what we normally think of when asking God to bless us.  Maybe when asking God to “bless” our enemies or oppressors, but not when asking him to bless our family and … Continue reading

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