Tag Archives: Courage

The Lessons and Liberation in Marriage

Posted on June 7, 2023 by John

“In our society, of course, there is no need to become an adult. One may remain—one is exhorted daily to remain—a child forever. “Marriage is pictured as a form of imprisonment, oppression, boredom, and chafing hindrance. Not all these accusations … Continue reading →

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Fulton J. Sheen on Doing Good v Refraining from Doing Bad

Posted on February 23, 2013 by John

Wise stuff! Reminds me of Burke’s (attributed) words, paraphrasing–“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.” And as Martin Luther King Jr wrote (and it’s quoted in the post below this one on … Continue reading →

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Thoreau on Love

Posted on July 14, 2012 by John

Love is a severe critic.  Hate (as well as self-centeredness and self-interest) can pardon more than love.  The heart is blind; but Love is not blind.  None of the gods is so discriminating.  We may love and not elevate one … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscience, Courage, Intimacy, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Thoreau, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , | 6 Comments

Real Courage

Posted on May 8, 2012 by John

. “The Abnormal Is Not Courage” – Jack Gilbert The Poles rode out from Warsaw against the German Tanks on horses. Rode knowing, in sunlight, with sabers, A magnitude of beauty that allows me no peace. And yet this poem … Continue reading →

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Dedication to Truth & Love versus a Dedication to Comfort & Lies & a Lack of Love

Posted on January 1, 2012 by John

Our capacity to love–to truly Love ourselves or our partner or children, et cetera–is inexorably connected to our dedication to truth and reality and to truly growing up.  If we’re not more dedicated to truth than our own comfort, if … Continue reading →

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Practicing the Art of Losing: Are You a Good Sport in Life or Just Another Troubled Guest Darkening the Earth?

Posted on December 28, 2011 by John

“Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” – Norman Cousins On this blog and my others (http://fullcatastropheliving.wordpress.com, http://aweektolive.wordpress.com), I write a lot about death, mortality, loss, impermanence. And … Continue reading →

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The Love that We Obtain Too Cheaply & Easily, We Esteem Too Lightly

Posted on August 23, 2011 by John

“The harder the conflict, the more potentially glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheaply and easily, we esteem too lightly, for it is dearness only that gives a thing its value. Heaven knows how to put a proper price … Continue reading →

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Learning How to Deal Better with the Full Intensity of Life by Becoming More Awake and Enlightened AND Conscientious (updated)

Posted on August 13, 2011 by John

(This is an updated version of something I posted on Jan 7th of this year regarding how to become more awake and enlightened and conscientious. . . . https://realtruelove.wordpress.com/2011/01/07/becoming-more-awake-enlightened-and-conscientious/) We do not become enlightened by avoiding what is unpleasant and … Continue reading →

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Are You “Living Music”? Are You Living Your Life Like “Living Music”?

Posted on August 9, 2011 by John

The way love—and not fear—moves you, and moves through you, is your true destiny. When you don’t add fear to love’s force, your life unfolds unimpeded, and each day is a flowering of your deepest gifts. At work, with your … Continue reading →

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Why Are You In the Relationships You Are In? (On “Right Relationship” . . . For the Bluebird in Your Soul)

Posted on August 8, 2011 by John

Why are you in the relationships you are in? Convenience? Because they’re fun and they make you feel good about yourself and being you? Because the other person supports and accepts and salves you? Why do you choose to let … Continue reading →

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