Monthly Archives: June 2012

Thích Nhất Hạnh on Love


“To love without knowing how to love, wounds the person we love.” – Thích Nhất Hạnh Thích Nhất Hạnh on Love We have to restore the meaning of the word “love.” We have been using it in a careless way. … Continue reading

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To Say I Love You One First Must Be Able to Say . . .


“To say ‘I love you’ one must first be able to say the ‘I’.” – Ayn Rand To really be able to say “I Love you” and mean it, a person first has to not only be able to say … Continue reading

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How Close Does the Dragon’s Spume Have to Come to You, to Me, to Any of Us, Before We “Get It”?


“If You Knew” – Ellen Bass What if you knew you’d be the last to touch someone? If you were taking tickets, for example, at the theater, tearing them, giving back the ragged stubs, you might take care to touch … Continue reading

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One of the Main Reasons We Run Away from Love . . .


I posted this on one of my other blogs today–several excerpts from Krishnamurti (one of my FAVORITE thinkers!) and then a few words of my own as well.  Please check out the post and see if any of it resonates … Continue reading

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The Ego versus the Soul in Relationships


. For the ego, all relationships are ultimately recreational. They exist to accessorize the ego, add fun, gratification, entertainment, pleasure, comfort, convenience, utility to a person’s life, to provide escape. They are not there to add depth, challenge, greater awareness, … Continue reading

Posted in "If the Buddha Dated", "Real", "The Velveteen Rabbit", Charlotte Kasl, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Margery Williams, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

Why Do We Love?


Why Do We Love?  Is it for our own sake or the sake of the one we are loving? [W]e don’t love people and animals because we will have them forever, we love them because loving them changes us, makes … Continue reading

Posted in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7, Conscience, Courage, Czeslaw Milosz, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Thomas Merton, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

How Do You Know When You’re Truly Ready to Be Part of a Deeply Loving Relationship?


Sonnets to Orpheus II, 13 – Rainer Maria Rilke Be ahead of all parting, as if it had already happened, like a winter which even now is passing. For beneath this winter is a winter so endless that to survive … Continue reading

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What Is Essential in Life . . .


. What is essential in life and love and relationships is for each person to arrive at some understanding of what love actually is and is not, and then to hold oneself above all to those standards (i.e.—to being the best … Continue reading

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Love & Friendship—How Do You Know *You’re* Ready for a Real Relationship?


. How do you know when you’re actually ready for a relationship? Not just how do you know when you’re available emotionally for a relationship, but how do you know when you’re healthy enough to be an asset to a … Continue reading

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A Dedication to Truth versus A Dedication to Anything Less


I posted this today on one of my other blogs– A Dedication to Truth versus A Dedication to Anything Less “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up … Continue reading

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