Tag Archives: Intimacy

Love Means Opening Yourself Up


. .   A big part of love means consciously opening yourself up to your beloved and sharing with your partner from what’s best in you. This means consciously choosing and risking being vulnerable and trusting your partner and revealing … Continue reading

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There Are *No* Ordinary People!


“It is a serious thing to live in a society of possible gods and goddesses, to remember that the dullest and most uninteresting person you can talk to may one day be a creature which, if you saw it now, … Continue reading

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How Close Does the Dragon’s Spume Have to Come to You, to Me, to Any of Us, Before We “Get It”?


“If You Knew” – Ellen Bass What if you knew you’d be the last to touch someone? If you were taking tickets, for example, at the theater, tearing them, giving back the ragged stubs, you might take care to touch … Continue reading

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Love & Friendship—How Do You Know *You’re* Ready for a Real Relationship?


. How do you know when you’re actually ready for a relationship? Not just how do you know when you’re available emotionally for a relationship, but how do you know when you’re healthy enough to be an asset to a … Continue reading

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Are You *Ready* for a Relationship?


Good relationships don’t happen by “accident.” They’re not just based on chemical attraction, projection, and mutual intoxication that just happens to last for years and years. Good relationships require something more: they require fundamentally good and decent people. When two … Continue reading

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Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy (updated 4-2-12)


. (This is an update of my post “Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy” from November 18, 2011) . Intimacy For most people intimacy equates with self-presentation, a process much … Continue reading

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Krishnamurti on Relationships & Self-Knowledge


The following are some of my favorite Krishnamurti quotes and excerpts that I have accumulated over the years. And some of these may include my own amending and modifications, because when I read, I don’t just consider what the author … Continue reading

Posted in Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Kierkegaard, Krishnamurti, M. Scott Peck, Real Love, Schnarch, Spiritual Growth, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Happy Birthday: Intimacy & the Birth of One’s (Deepest) Self


This is what intimacy is all about, in my opinion: it’s about having some real depth to oneself, continuing to develop your own depths, yet finding another who is also similarly and compatibly deep, and sharing your depth and exploring … Continue reading

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What is Real Intimacy?


Intimacy means self-disclosure and self-revelation. Put another way, it means transparency. It means tremendous openness, candidness, honesty. Our capacity for intimacy with another is determined by and limited by our level of intimacy (or openness and honesty) with ourselves. When … Continue reading

Posted in G. K. Chesterton, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Living the Questions, Mental Health, Real Love, Rilke, Theodore Roethke, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , | 4 Comments

Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy


Intimacy For most people intimacy equates with self-presentation, a process much different from self-revelation.  Self-revelation occurs with minimal to no spin and or editing.  Self-presentation, on the other hand, relies heavily on spin and editing and manipulating and managing the … Continue reading

Posted in Anthony Robbins, Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Joseph Campbell, Ken Wilber, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Real Love, Responsibility, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments