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Tag Archives: Intimacy
Love Means Opening Yourself Up
. . A big part of love means consciously opening yourself up to your beloved and sharing with your partner from what’s best in you. This means consciously choosing and risking being vulnerable and trusting your partner and revealing … Continue reading
Posted in "The Four Loves", C.S. Lewis, Conscious Love, Critical Thinking, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love Is a Verb, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Personal Growth, Perspective, Real Love, Self-Awareness, Thích Nhất Hạnh, The Examined Life, Truth, Vulnerability, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged "The Four Loves", C.S. Lewis, Conscious Love, Intimacy, Love is a Choice, Mature Love, Real Love, Thích Nhất Hạnh, Vulnerability
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There Are *No* Ordinary People!
“It is a serious thing to live in a society of possible gods and goddesses, to remember that the dullest and most uninteresting person you can talk to may one day be a creature which, if you saw it now, … Continue reading
Posted in C.S. Lewis, Conscience, Mature Love, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, The Examined Life, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged C.S. Lewis, Human Relationships, Intimacy, Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth
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How Close Does the Dragon’s Spume Have to Come to You, to Me, to Any of Us, Before We “Get It”?
“If You Knew” – Ellen Bass What if you knew you’d be the last to touch someone? If you were taking tickets, for example, at the theater, tearing them, giving back the ragged stubs, you might take care to touch … Continue reading
Posted in "If You Knew", Death, Ellen Bass, Gurdjieff, Honesty, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Mental Health, Real Love, Truth, What is Love?
Tagged "If You Knew", Death, Denial, Ellen Bass, Gurdjieff, Honesty, Intimacy, Love, Mental health, Pseudo-Intimacy, Truth
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Love & Friendship—How Do You Know *You’re* Ready for a Real Relationship?
. How do you know when you’re actually ready for a relationship? Not just how do you know when you’re available emotionally for a relationship, but how do you know when you’re healthy enough to be an asset to a … Continue reading
Are You *Ready* for a Relationship?
Good relationships don’t happen by “accident.” They’re not just based on chemical attraction, projection, and mutual intoxication that just happens to last for years and years. Good relationships require something more: they require fundamentally good and decent people. When two … Continue reading
Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy (updated 4-2-12)
. (This is an update of my post “Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy” from November 18, 2011) . Intimacy For most people intimacy equates with self-presentation, a process much … Continue reading
Posted in Anthony Robbins, Conscious Love, Generosity, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Joseph Campbell, Ken Wilber, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged Anthony Robbins, Intimacy, Intimate relationships, Joseph Campbell, Ken Wilber, Mature Love, Narcissism, Pseudo-Intimacy, Real Love, Self-Presentation, Self-Revelation, Selfishness
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Krishnamurti on Relationships & Self-Knowledge
The following are some of my favorite Krishnamurti quotes and excerpts that I have accumulated over the years. And some of these may include my own amending and modifications, because when I read, I don’t just consider what the author … Continue reading
Posted in Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Kierkegaard, Krishnamurti, M. Scott Peck, Real Love, Schnarch, Spiritual Growth, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged Avoidance, David Schnarch, Interpersonal relationship, Intimacy, Jiddu Krishnamurti, Kierkegaard, M. Scott Peck, Mental health, Relationships, Truth
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Happy Birthday: Intimacy & the Birth of One’s (Deepest) Self
This is what intimacy is all about, in my opinion: it’s about having some real depth to oneself, continuing to develop your own depths, yet finding another who is also similarly and compatibly deep, and sharing your depth and exploring … Continue reading
Posted in "The God Who Loves You", C.S. Lewis, Carl Dennis, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Death, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Rilke, Sarah Ruhl, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged "Eurydice", Carl Dennis, God, Intimacy, Intimate relationship, John Ruskin, Love, Rainer Maria Rilke, Relationship, Sarah Ruhl
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What is Real Intimacy?
Intimacy means self-disclosure and self-revelation. Put another way, it means transparency. It means tremendous openness, candidness, honesty. Our capacity for intimacy with another is determined by and limited by our level of intimacy (or openness and honesty) with ourselves. When … Continue reading
Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy
Intimacy For most people intimacy equates with self-presentation, a process much different from self-revelation. Self-revelation occurs with minimal to no spin and or editing. Self-presentation, on the other hand, relies heavily on spin and editing and manipulating and managing the … Continue reading
Posted in Anthony Robbins, Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Joseph Campbell, Ken Wilber, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Real Love, Responsibility, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged Anthony Robbins, Intimacy, Intimate relationship, Joseph Campbell, Ken Wilber, Mature Love, Narcissism, Pseudo-Intimacy, Real Love, Relationship, Romance, Self-Presentation, Self-Revelation
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