Category Archives: Spiritual Growth

How to Know If You Are REALLY Ready For a Real Relationship


How do you know if you are (or your partner is) really ready for a REAL relationship. Condition 1: You have strong feelings or a strong sense of attraction for another. You are infatuated with him or her. You are … Continue reading

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May God Bless Us All . . . with Discomfort, Anger, Tears, and Foolishness


. . . This is not by any means what we normally think of when asking God to bless us.  Maybe when asking God to “bless” our enemies or oppressors, but not when asking him to bless our family and … Continue reading

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What Are Your Relationships Based On?


. [W]hat is . . . relationship generally based on? Is it not based on so-called interdependence, mutual assistance? At least we say it is mutual help, mutual aid and so on, but, actually, apart from words, apart from the … Continue reading

Posted in Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Krishnamurti, Personal Growth, Perspective, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, The Examined Life, What is Love? | 1 Comment

Commentary on “Marriage Isn’t For *You*”


. [A] true marriage (and true love) is never about you. It’s about the person you love—their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, “What’s in it for me?”, while Love asks, “What can I give?” Some … Continue reading

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Love Is a Verb (“I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married—The Real Truth About Love”)


. I am going to reblog a very honest and nicely-written article with the attention-grabbing perhaps even somewhat shocking title of “I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married” (The Real Truth About Love) ” by Elad Nehorai (the … Continue reading

Posted in "The Five Love Languages", Elad Nehorai, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love Is a Verb, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Examined Life, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Bernie Siegel, M.D., on Finding Your True Path


  . . (The following post is abridged, adapted, and modified from Bernie Siegel’s essay “Love: The Work of The Soul“ in “Handbook for the Soul,” compiled by Richard Carlson, Benjamin Shield, pp. 39-44.) . In my work as a … Continue reading

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Distracted Living versus Living Lovingly


. Alternately titled “Long-Term Happiness versus Short-Term Happiness” . You know of the disease in Central Africa called sleeping sickness. First its victims get slightly tired, then the disease gradually intensifies until the afflicted person lies asleep all the time … Continue reading

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What Is Love? (Is Love Fundamentally a Feeling?)


We human beings, in general, tend to be confused about Love–what it is, what it isn’t, what it means to be in love, et cetera. For example: Is love primarily an emotion?  Is it something we feel?  And if so, … Continue reading

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Self-Acceptance (& Which of Our Possible Selves to Accept)


“Your god-self does not dwell alone in your being.  Much in you is still man, and much in you is not yet man, but a shapeless pygmy that walks asleep in the mist searching for its own awakening.” – Kahlil … Continue reading

Posted in C.S. Lewis, Dag Hammarskjöld, Pema Chodron, Personal Growth, Self-Acceptance, Self-Love, Spiritual Growth, The Examined Life, Viktor Frankl, Waking Up | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

The Serenity Prayer, Self-Acceptance & Self-Care, and Discernment


. DISCERNMENT.  (Noun.)  A core component of wisdom.  The ability to make fine yet profound/crucial distinctions; the ability to see (comprehend) more clearly what is unclear and obscure. The Serenity Prayer (as it applies to ourselves) God, grant me the … Continue reading

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