Tag Archives: Intimate relationship

Love *Is* Difficult

Posted on November 29, 2012 by John

. Love is difficult. It is difficult to learn how to really love another person. It is difficult to learn how to love oneself. Loving another means caring deeply for that person, being good to that person, wanting the best … Continue reading →

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How Asking Just *One* Question Can Save Your Relationship

Posted on October 25, 2012 by John

It’s easy to fall into a rut with your partner, to let things get stale, boring, monotonous, routine, to take each other for granted. But that’s not Love.  That’s not what Real Love does.  Genuine Love is about cherishing the … Continue reading →

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Thích Nhất Hạnh on Love

Posted on June 30, 2012 by John

“To love without knowing how to love, wounds the person we love.” – Thích Nhất Hạnh Thích Nhất Hạnh on Love We have to restore the meaning of the word “love.” We have been using it in a careless way. … Continue reading →

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The Ego versus the Soul in Relationships

Posted on June 20, 2012 by John

. For the ego, all relationships are ultimately recreational. They exist to accessorize the ego, add fun, gratification, entertainment, pleasure, comfort, convenience, utility to a person’s life, to provide escape. They are not there to add depth, challenge, greater awareness, … Continue reading →

Posted in "If the Buddha Dated", "Real", "The Velveteen Rabbit", Charlotte Kasl, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Margery Williams, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

Romantic Love Dies from a Lack of Love

Posted on April 26, 2012 by John

. “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” … Continue reading →

Posted in Anaïs Nin, Ayya Khema, Conscience, Conscious Love, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , | 26 Comments

The Brain On Love, or “It’s Relatively Easy to Find Someone Who’ll Say ‘I Love You’—It’s Much Harder to Find Someone Who Actually Will Do So”

Posted on April 5, 2012 by John

. (This is my abridgment of a March 24, 2012 article in the NYTimes. The original article can be found here—http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/03/24/the-brain-on-love/ . I have highlighted and bold-printed what I thought was really interesting about the article and added my own … Continue reading →

Posted in "Alley by the Lake", Alan Paton, Diane Ackerman, Interpersonal Neurobiology, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Leo Buscaglia, Leonid Afremov, Mature Love, Mental Health, New York Times, Real Love, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 11 Comments

How Good Are You at Loving?

Posted on March 9, 2012 by John

. How good are you at loving? Each and every one of us can use some improvement. To love is to be engaged in an activity that can be done well or not so well. One can be good at … Continue reading →

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It changes EVERYTHING!

Posted on January 30, 2012 by John

There seems to be a double standard at the heart of most intimate relationships, and that is that we tend to consistently expect the best for ourselves while not nearly as often expecting the best out of ourselves. We want our … Continue reading →

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Happy Birthday: Intimacy & the Birth of One’s (Deepest) Self

Posted on January 9, 2012 by John

This is what intimacy is all about, in my opinion: it’s about having some real depth to oneself, continuing to develop your own depths, yet finding another who is also similarly and compatibly deep, and sharing your depth and exploring … Continue reading →

Posted in "The God Who Loves You", C.S. Lewis, Carl Dennis, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Death, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Rilke, Sarah Ruhl, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Scattered Thoughts—Why I Write Such Lengthy Posts; Pride; Intimacy; Depth of Thinking & Real Change; The Holy Relationship; and The Active Soul

Posted on November 22, 2011 by John

First off, my inner-Nietzsche really wanted to subtitle part of this entry “Why I Write Such Excellent and Lengthy Posts,” but I thought that doing so might be potentially a bit too off-putting to some (considering I don’t really know … Continue reading →

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