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Tag Archives: differentiation
Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t (updated)
(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only *if* we develop and … Continue reading
Posted in "Man's Search for Meaning", "Siddhartha", Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Critical Thinking, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Hermann Hesse, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Luke 6:32-35, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Perspective, Proactivity, Reactive, Real Love, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Examined Life, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Viktor Frankl, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged "Greenberg", "Man's Search for Meaning", "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", Albert Camus, Conscience, differentiation, Emotionally Reactive, George Gissing, M. Scott Peck, Proactivity, Reactive, Reactivity, Real Love, Self-awareness, Stephen Covey, The Road Less Traveled, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Viktor Frankl
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Criticism, Critical Thinking, and Love
. One of the running themes throughout all of my blogs and many blog posts has been encouraging anyone who reads or strays across these posts and pages to try and lead as examined and reflective a life as possible. … Continue reading
Posted in Critical Thinking, Criticism, Denial, John Kenneth Galbraith, M. Scott Peck, Matthew 7: 1-6, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, The Examined Life, Truth, Winston Churchill
Tagged Constructive Criticism, Critical Thinking, Criticism, differentiation, Feedback, Growing Up, Honesty, Inner Peace, John Kenneth Galbraith, Judgmentalness, Love, M. Scott Peck, The Examined Life, Truth, Winston Churchill
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Are You *Ready* for a Relationship?
Good relationships don’t happen by “accident.” They’re not just based on chemical attraction, projection, and mutual intoxication that just happens to last for years and years. Good relationships require something more: they require fundamentally good and decent people. When two … Continue reading
Differentiation, Love, and Living with Integrity
. Many people appear to think that living with integrity means living in alignment with their feelings. That if they feel a certain way about someone or something, then “integrity” requires that they act in a way that is in … Continue reading
Posted in Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Martin Luther King Jr., Mental Health, Proactivity, Reactive, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged differentiation, emotional maturity, Examined Life, Integrity, Love, M. Scott Peck, Martin Luther King Jr., Murray Bowen, Stephen Covey
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David Schnarch Defines Love
In the first 5 minutes of this short video, David Schnarch, one of the world’s foremost and wisest marriage therapists, talks about Love. . . “Loving someone is a very active process. Love is not just a feeling you have; … Continue reading
It Changes EVERYTHING! (part 2)
I was reading through another blog this morning, and as I read through one of her posts I came across the following paragraph and I thought it to be very wise and well-stated. And then I just started writing my … Continue reading
Posted in Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Road Less Traveled, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Acting As-If, Alan Paton, Ayn Rand, Delay of Gratification, differentiation, emotional maturity, Growing Up, Human, M. Scott Peck, Proactivity, Stephen Covey, The Road Less Traveled, Thomas Henry Huxley
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Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t
(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only if—if—we develop and exercise … Continue reading
Posted in "Man's Search for Meaning", Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Dependency, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Proactivity, Reactive, Responsibility, Self-Love, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Road Less Traveled, Viktor Frankl, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged "Greenberg", "Man's Search for Meaning", "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", Albert Camus, Conscience, differentiation, Human, M. Scott Peck, Proactivity, Reactive, Real Love, Self-awareness, Stephen Covey, The Road Less Traveled, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Viktor Frankl
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“Differentiation: The Most Loving Thing You Can Do” (From “Passionate Marriage,” by David Schnarch)
Since differentiation is a complex process that is easily misunderstood, let me offer several important clarifications: People screaming, “I got to be me!” “Don’t fence me in!” and “I need space!” are not highly differentiated people. Just the opposite. They … Continue reading
Being In Love and Being Loving Are Two Different Things
There are basically two kinds of couples: Those who have strong enough character and enough emotional maturity to work at the inevitable difficulties of marriage and long-term relationships. And those who don’t. Being in love and being loving are two … Continue reading
Posted in Courage, Differentiation, James Hollis, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, Uncategorized, What is Love?
Tagged "Becoming Your Best", character, Courage, differentiation, emotional maturity, James Hollis, Love, personal growth, Ronald Richardson
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