Tag Archives: Waking Up

In the Gap Between Stimulus and Response is Where Real Love Occurs

Posted on March 12, 2016 by John

I’ll meet you there (to riff on Rumi). Or better yet: Start meeting your partner there. Choice is sexy. When partners choose when and where and how they want to have sex, that is sexy. When they make a choice to engage … Continue reading →

Posted in Character, Conscious Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Personal Growth, Perspective, Real Love, Self-Awareness, The Examined Life, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Distraction & Love

Posted on February 28, 2013 by John

David Kanigan, over at Lead.Learn.Live, this morning posted this excerpt from a book by Tony Schwartz .  I read it and commented.  I’m reposting my commenting here as well, because it goes to the heart of what I write about on … Continue reading →

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Passion & Reason: Following Your Head & Following Your Heart (or Tuning Both & Following Both)

Posted on February 17, 2013 by John

. . We’re all at the helm of something with an impressive amount of horsepower—this body, with its heart, ego, and genitalia, each full of their own passions, motivations, preferences, desires, aversions.  The ego wants fame, attention, power, immortality, runs … Continue reading →

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Why Real Love Is So Difficult & Rare (updated 12-26-2012)

Posted on December 26, 2012 by John

. (This is an updated version of a post I first publish on Feb 28, 2012 — “Why Real Love Is So Difficult & Rare“) . . “We have lost our sense of values: when your fence falls, you mend … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Czeslaw Milosz, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Generosity, Honesty, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Thích Nhất Hạnh, Thomas Merton, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

*DO* Carpe Diem

Posted on December 17, 2012 by John

. *DO* Carpe Diem (& *Do* Hug Your Children & Spouse More, and *Do* Begin Much More Often with the End in Mind) . . “The way to begin loving anything is to realize that it might be lost.” …… … Continue reading →

Posted in "If You Knew", "Shadowlands", Ellen Bass, Glennon Melton, Gratitude, Henri-Frédéric, Mature Love, Mental Health, Momastery, Perspective, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 14 Comments

One of the Main Reasons We Run Away from Love . . .

Posted on June 21, 2012 by John

I posted this on one of my other blogs today–several excerpts from Krishnamurti (one of my FAVORITE thinkers!) and then a few words of my own as well.  Please check out the post and see if any of it resonates … Continue reading →

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How Do You Know When You’re Truly Ready to Be Part of a Deeply Loving Relationship?

Posted on June 14, 2012 by John

Sonnets to Orpheus II, 13 – Rainer Maria Rilke Be ahead of all parting, as if it had already happened, like a winter which even now is passing. For beneath this winter is a winter so endless that to survive … Continue reading →

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What Is Essential in Life . . .

Posted on June 11, 2012 by John

. What is essential in life and love and relationships is for each person to arrive at some understanding of what love actually is and is not, and then to hold oneself above all to those standards (i.e.—to being the best … Continue reading →

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A Dedication to Truth versus A Dedication to Anything Less

Posted on June 4, 2012 by John

I posted this today on one of my other blogs– A Dedication to Truth versus A Dedication to Anything Less “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up … Continue reading →

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Lying, Self-Deception, Resistance to Truth & Reality, and the Pain of Real Growth

Posted on May 17, 2012 by John

I posted this today on one of my other blogs–“Lying, Self-Deception, Resistance to Truth & Reality, and the Pain of Real Growth“–it meshes well with the real inner growth required if we are to learn how to become more genuinely … Continue reading →

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