Monthly Archives: August 2011

The Love that We Obtain Too Cheaply & Easily, We Esteem Too Lightly


“The harder the conflict, the more potentially glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheaply and easily, we esteem too lightly, for it is dearness only that gives a thing its value. Heaven knows how to put a proper price … Continue reading

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Learning How to Deal Better with the Full Intensity of Life by Becoming More Awake and Enlightened AND Conscientious (updated)


(This is an updated version of something I posted on Jan 7th of this year regarding how to become more awake and enlightened and conscientious. . . . https://realtruelove.wordpress.com/2011/01/07/becoming-more-awake-enlightened-and-conscientious/) We do not become enlightened by avoiding what is unpleasant and … Continue reading

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“Why Love If Losing Hurts So Much?”


I posted this today on my newest blog. . . . Check it out and let me know what you think! Thanks! John http://fullcatastropheliving.wordpress.com / http://fullcatastropheliving.wordpress.com/2011/08/10/why-love-if-losing-hurts-so-much/

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Are You “Living Music”? Are You Living Your Life Like “Living Music”?


The way love—and not fear—moves you, and moves through you, is your true destiny. When you don’t add fear to love’s force, your life unfolds unimpeded, and each day is a flowering of your deepest gifts. At work, with your … Continue reading

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Why Are You In the Relationships You Are In? (On “Right Relationship” . . . For the Bluebird in Your Soul)


Why are you in the relationships you are in? Convenience? Because they’re fun and they make you feel good about yourself and being you? Because the other person supports and accepts and salves you? Why do you choose to let … Continue reading

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What Are Your Relationships Based On?—Mutual Gratification or Are They Processes of Self-Revelation?


. “Mindfulness is basically just a particular way of paying attention. It is a way of looking deeply into oneself in the spirit of self-inquiry and self-understanding.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn, “Full Catastrophe Living,” pg. 12 . [W]hat is relationship generally … Continue reading

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What Kind of Lover Are You? What Kind of Love Do You Give? and What Kind of Love Do You Want to Experience?


Abraham Maslow proposed that an individual is basically oriented either toward “deficit and repair” or “growth and maturation.” Growth-oriented individuals, in contrast with those with a deficiency-orientation (deficit-and-repair orientation), are far more self-sufficient and far less dependent upon their environment … Continue reading

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How Free Are Any of Us Really To Choose Love over Fear or What’s Truly Good for Us over What Feels Good and Only Temporarily So?


“The truth is that we are not yet free; we have merely achieved the freedom to be free.” – Nelson Mandela The following is abridged and adapted (meaning I’ve edited the heck out of it and added to it and … Continue reading

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