Monthly Archives: May 2012

Differentiation, Love, and Living with Integrity

. Many people appear to think that living with integrity means living in alignment with their feelings. That if they feel a certain way about someone or something, then “integrity” requires that they act in a way that is in … Continue reading

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Lying, Self-Deception, Resistance to Truth & Reality, and the Pain of Real Growth

I posted this today on one of my other blogs–“Lying, Self-Deception, Resistance to Truth & Reality, and the Pain of Real Growth“–it meshes well with the real inner growth required if we are to learn how to become more genuinely … Continue reading

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David Schnarch Defines Love

In the first 5 minutes of this short video, David Schnarch, one of the world’s foremost and wisest marriage therapists, talks about Love. . . “Loving someone is a very active process.  Love is not just a feeling you have; … Continue reading

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Real Courage

. “The Abnormal Is Not Courage” – Jack Gilbert The Poles rode out from Warsaw against the German Tanks on horses. Rode knowing, in sunlight, with sabers, A magnitude of beauty that allows me no peace. And yet this poem … Continue reading

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Loving Difficult People

I came across this on my facebook feed this morning . . . But this is the easy part–being nice to those who are first nice to us. The real issue is how to treat those who are not first … Continue reading

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The Hardest Arithmetic to Master (What If Today We Were Just More Grateful?)

I posted this on one of my other blogs today . . . It’s about increasing our level of gratefulenss and appreciation, but if we do that, we will invariably increase our capacity to Love as well, so, ultimately, … Continue reading

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