Category Archives: Erich Fromm

Quotes on LOVE

. “Love seeks one thing only: the good of the one loved. . . . To love another is to will what is really good for him [or her]. A love that . . . loves blindly merely for the … Continue reading

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Love & Boredom — “We were bored and didn’t have anything to do,

so we decided to kill somebody.” From a week and a half ago— . . No doubt about it, we’re living in troubled times.  When boredom leads three teens (three likely already troubled teens) to randomly shoot another young human … Continue reading

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Love & Our Two Selves

. This post was prompted in part by a post that was reblogged by Todd Loheny from titled “The Reason Love Dies (And How To Get It Back!)” by Shelly Bullard, MFT. This is not a direct response to her … Continue reading

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Mature Love v Immature Love

. Erich Fromm, in “The Art of Loving,” wrote, “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you’.” The first statement is based on dependency—I am dependent on you, … Continue reading

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The Learning of Love & Gratitude

. “The hardest arithmetic to master is the one which enables us to count our blessings.” – Eric Hoffer “When it comes to life the critical thing is whether we take things for granted or take them with gratitude.” – … Continue reading

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Real Love & Conscience

In his classic book “The Art of Loving,” the psychologist Erich Fromm defines several characteristic of what real love looks and acts like: “Not he who has much is rich, but he who gives much. . . . Whoever is … Continue reading

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How Free Are Any of Us Really To Choose Love over Fear or What’s Truly Good for Us over What Feels Good and Only Temporarily So?

“The truth is that we are not yet free; we have merely achieved the freedom to be free.” – Nelson Mandela The following is abridged and adapted (meaning I’ve edited the heck out of it and added to it and … Continue reading

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Why Real Love Is Not a Feeling

The feeling of love is about oneself—how we feel about a person or how a person makes us feel is completely about us, not the other person. And that’s not love—not real love. Real love is about the other person … Continue reading

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