Tag Archives: Rilke

Vase or Faces: Is Life Fundamentally Easy; Difficult; or Both?


. How do you view life—as something that fundamentally is supposed to be easy (which means that difficulty and hardship are aberrations)?  Or is life something that is essentially / fundamentally difficult and painful, a struggle (“life is suffering” said … Continue reading

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Love *Is* Difficult


. Love is difficult. It is difficult to learn how to really love another person. It is difficult to learn how to love oneself. Loving another means caring deeply for that person, being good to that person, wanting the best … Continue reading

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Mature Love v Immature Love


. Erich Fromm, in “The Art of Loving,” wrote, “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says: ‘I need you because I love you’.” The first statement is based on dependency—I am dependent on you, … Continue reading

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When It Comes to Love, We ALL Start Out As Beginners . . .


When it comes to love, we all start out as beginners. It’s like picking up a tennis racquet for the first time. We may like to think that we already know how to hit the ball, and that with a … Continue reading

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What is Real Intimacy?


Intimacy means self-disclosure and self-revelation. Put another way, it means transparency. It means tremendous openness, candidness, honesty. Our capacity for intimacy with another is determined by and limited by our level of intimacy (or openness and honesty) with ourselves. When … Continue reading

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The Love that We Obtain Too Cheaply & Easily, We Esteem Too Lightly


“The harder the conflict, the more potentially glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheaply and easily, we esteem too lightly, for it is dearness only that gives a thing its value. Heaven knows how to put a proper price … Continue reading

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Learning How to Deal Better with the Full Intensity of Life by Becoming More Awake and Enlightened AND Conscientious (updated)


(This is an updated version of something I posted on Jan 7th of this year regarding how to become more awake and enlightened and conscientious. . . . https://realtruelove.wordpress.com/2011/01/07/becoming-more-awake-enlightened-and-conscientious/) We do not become enlightened by avoiding what is unpleasant and … Continue reading

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Why Are You In the Relationships You Are In? (On “Right Relationship” . . . For the Bluebird in Your Soul)


Why are you in the relationships you are in? Convenience? Because they’re fun and they make you feel good about yourself and being you? Because the other person supports and accepts and salves you? Why do you choose to let … Continue reading

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Falling in Love versus Being in Love and Genuinely Loving Another


  Falling in Love versus Being in Love and Genuinely Loving Another The “in-love-ness” of romantic love is an inherently unstable and temporary experience. It does not represent a stable stage of consciousness—it does not represent an earned and more … Continue reading

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Impermanence, Death, Love


From an early age, I have known that life is brief, fleeting, impermanent. I have had these experiences, these overwhelming intimations, where everything around me becomes viscous, where it becomes hideously obvious that there is nothing to cling to here … Continue reading

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