Tag Archives: The Examined Life

In the Gap Between Stimulus and Response is Where Real Love Occurs


I’ll meet you there (to riff on Rumi). Or better yet: Start meeting your partner there. Choice is sexy. When partners choose when and where and how they want to have sex, that is sexy. When they make a choice to engage … Continue reading

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How To Begin Being More Thankful


Gratitude, like love, is best defined not as a feeling, but as something so much more and different: as a choice, a behavior, an attitude, as a way of seeing things, as a way of perceiving and thinking about things. … Continue reading

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Distracted Living versus Living Lovingly


. Alternately titled “Long-Term Happiness versus Short-Term Happiness” . You know of the disease in Central Africa called sleeping sickness. First its victims get slightly tired, then the disease gradually intensifies until the afflicted person lies asleep all the time … Continue reading

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What Is Love? (Is Love Fundamentally a Feeling?)


We human beings, in general, tend to be confused about Love–what it is, what it isn’t, what it means to be in love, et cetera. For example: Is love primarily an emotion?  Is it something we feel?  And if so, … Continue reading

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C.S. Lewis on Why to Be Moral


  . . The sort of idea that the word Morality raises in a good many people’s minds is that it’s something that interferes—Morality is something that stops you from having a good time. In reality, moral rules are directions … Continue reading

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C.S. Lewis & Ken Wilber on My Truth, Your Truth, and Morality


. “The moment you say that one set of moral ideas can be better, you are in fact, measuring them both by a standard, saying that one of them conforms to that standard more nearly than the other.  But the … Continue reading

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Commentary on “The Success Indicator” by MaryEllen Tribby


. . The chart above is a chart that I have recently seen reblogged on a couple of blogs I follow http://davidkanigan.com/2013/08/29/so-is-it-a-or-is-it-b/ http://thesnowballeffect.com/successful-people/ Part of Love–part of what distinguishes becoming a more genuinely Loving human being from becoming merely a kinder … Continue reading

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The Serenity Prayer, Self-Acceptance & Self-Care, and Discernment


. DISCERNMENT.  (Noun.)  A core component of wisdom.  The ability to make fine yet profound/crucial distinctions; the ability to see (comprehend) more clearly what is unclear and obscure. The Serenity Prayer (as it applies to ourselves) God, grant me the … Continue reading

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Distraction & Love


David Kanigan, over at Lead.Learn.Live, this morning posted this excerpt from a book by Tony Schwartz .  I read it and commented.  I’m reposting my commenting here as well, because it goes to the heart of what I write about on … Continue reading

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How Do You Define Love? How Do You Know What Love Is? (Or What Does Reading Have to Do with Love?)


. How Do You Define Love? How we define love—as a feeling or as an action, as something that we feel and that is triggered by another or others, or as something we do and a way of life and … Continue reading

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