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What Is Love? (Is Love Fundamentally a Feeling?)


We human beings, in general, tend to be confused about Love–what it is, what it isn’t, what it means to be in love, et cetera. For example: Is love primarily an emotion?  Is it something we feel?  And if so, … Continue reading

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When It Comes to Love, We ALL Start Out As Beginners . . .


When it comes to love, we all start out as beginners. It’s like picking up a tennis racquet for the first time. We may like to think that we already know how to hit the ball, and that with a … Continue reading

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It changes EVERYTHING!


There seems to be a double standard at the heart of most intimate relationships, and that is that we tend to consistently expect the best for ourselves while not nearly as often expecting the best out of ourselves. We want our … Continue reading

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How To Fall In Love Again (updated 1/10/12)


“I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person. But I do know that if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after … Continue reading

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Love Is More Than A Feeling—Much More Than A Feeling; It’s A Virtue


. . One of the things that we as a culture have forgotten (did we ever really know it? Has any culture every really known it?) is that love is much more than just a feeling. Love is equally, if … Continue reading

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Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy


Intimacy For most people intimacy equates with self-presentation, a process much different from self-revelation.  Self-revelation occurs with minimal to no spin and or editing.  Self-presentation, on the other hand, relies heavily on spin and editing and manipulating and managing the … Continue reading

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Love & Intimacy: Some Basic Definitions


Intimacy Intimacy means self-revelation.  In other words, intimacy requires self-revelation.  Which means if you think you are in an intimate relationship but you are hiding parts of yourself (whether due to immaturity, trust issues, psychopathology, or for fear of your … Continue reading

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What is Love?


“Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence.” – Erich Fromm If you truly want to help revolutionize life on earth, if you truly want to become part of the solution instead of perpetuating … Continue reading

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Falling in Love versus Being in Love and Genuinely Loving Another


  Falling in Love versus Being in Love and Genuinely Loving Another The “in-love-ness” of romantic love is an inherently unstable and temporary experience. It does not represent a stable stage of consciousness—it does not represent an earned and more … Continue reading

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