Category Archives: Generosity

Love, the Feeling, versus Love, the Capacity (Immature Love versus Mature Love, part 2)

Posted on January 8, 2013 by John

. A properly (or fully) developed human being is a Loving human being. Love, ultimately, is a capacity. A capacity that develops as the result of developing many other capacities and virtues and behavioral predispositions. Some of these are of … Continue reading →

Posted in chapter 13, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Friendship, Generosity, Gratitude, Honesty, Immature Love, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Perspective, Real Love, Self-Love, Spiritual Growth, Thích Nhất Hạnh, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 8 Comments

Why Real Love Is So Difficult & Rare (updated 12-26-2012)

Posted on December 26, 2012 by John

. (This is an updated version of a post I first publish on Feb 28, 2012 — “Why Real Love Is So Difficult & Rare“) . . “We have lost our sense of values: when your fence falls, you mend … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Czeslaw Milosz, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Generosity, Honesty, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Thích Nhất Hạnh, Thomas Merton, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

The Real Meaning of “Carpe Diem” (The bus *will* stop)

Posted on December 24, 2012 by John

. “It’s only when we truly know and understand that we have a limited time on earth—and that we have no way of knowing when our time is up, we will then begin to live each day to the fullest, … Continue reading →

Posted in "Dead Poets Society", Abraham Maslow, Carpe Diem, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, G. K. Chesterton, Generosity, Glennon Melton, Gratitude, Kindness, Maslow, Mental Health, Momastery, Naomi Shihab Nye, Perspective, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Don’t Wait!

Posted on April 18, 2012 by John

Death—either an actual brush with it or slowing down in our daily lives enough to begin deeply and honestly contemplating it in a way that allows us to actually get a sense of what it will be like to know … Continue reading →

Posted in Albert Schweitzer, Conscious Love, Death, Generosity, Gratitude, Intimate Relationships, Living the Questions, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Meister Eckhart, Mental Health, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

“What Love Is” – by Ayya Khema

Posted on April 12, 2012 by John

. I came across a quote/excerpt yesterday on another blog that I frequent and I wanted to know more about both the author of the quote/excerpt and the excerpt itself. In particular I wanted to see if I could find … Continue reading →

Posted in Ayya Khema, Conscious Love, Generosity, Gratitude, Intimate Relationships, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , | 6 Comments

Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy (updated 4-2-12)

Posted on April 2, 2012 by John

. (This is an update of my post “Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy” from November 18, 2011) . Intimacy For most people intimacy equates with self-presentation, a process much … Continue reading →

Posted in Anthony Robbins, Conscious Love, Generosity, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Joseph Campbell, Ken Wilber, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Why Real Love Is So Difficult & Rare

Posted on February 28, 2012 by John

“We too often love things and use people when we should be using things and loving people.” “We have lost our sense of values: when your fence falls, you mend it; when your friendship fails, you run.” – Nathaniel Hawthorne … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscience, Courage, Dependency, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Generosity, Love is Not a Feeling, Martin Luther King Jr., Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Thomas Merton, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , | 44 Comments

A Young Girl’s Courage to Give

Posted on February 24, 2012 by John

Wow . . . Instead of the post I had intended to write and publish here for the day, I am going to forego that and reblog this post from 365daysofcourage.wordpress.com . . . Wow—what a story, what a young … Continue reading →

Posted in 365daysofcourage.wordpress.com, Courage, Death, Generosity, Gratitude, Love | Tagged , , , , , , | 8 Comments

It changes EVERYTHING!

Posted on January 30, 2012 by John

There seems to be a double standard at the heart of most intimate relationships, and that is that we tend to consistently expect the best for ourselves while not nearly as often expecting the best out of ourselves. We want our … Continue reading →

Posted in Anthony Robbins, Antilove, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Gandhi, Generosity, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, Matthew 7: 1-6, Mature Love, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Love, Gratitude, and Perspective

Posted on January 11, 2012 by John

Love is not primarily about how another makes us feel or what he or she does for us; it’s about how we show up to a relationship and treat another human being—gratefully or ungratefully; as someone valuable—nay, invaluable and priceless … Continue reading →

Posted in Emotional Maturity, Generosity, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimacy, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , | 3 Comments