Monthly Archives: December 2023

Dr. Tori Olds’ Interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin, Founder of PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy)

Posted on December 28, 2023 by John

(My abridged transcription. Parentheses and bold and italics are mine.) Let me start with things that are true about the human primate. We are threat animals: if we do anything really really well we are good at scanning for threat … Continue reading →

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Is Your Heart Like a Cup or Like a River?

Posted on December 9, 2023 by John

From Zen Buddhist Monk Thich Nhat Hahn’s book “How to Love” — “If you pour a handful of salt into a cup of water, the water becomes undrinkable. But if you pour the salt into a river, people can continue … Continue reading →

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C. S. Lewis on Evil & “Enemy-Occupied Territory”

Posted on December 5, 2023 by John

From C.S. Lewis, “Mere Christianity,” at the end of chapter 2; my abridgement One of the things that surprised me when I first started reading the New Testament seriously was that it talked so much about a Dark Power in … Continue reading →

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