Monthly Archives: January 2012

It Changes EVERYTHING! (part 2)

Posted on January 31, 2012 by John

I was reading through another blog this morning, and as I read through one of her posts I came across the following paragraph and I thought it to be very wise and well-stated. And then I just started writing my … Continue reading →

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It changes EVERYTHING!

Posted on January 30, 2012 by John

There seems to be a double standard at the heart of most intimate relationships, and that is that we tend to consistently expect the best for ourselves while not nearly as often expecting the best out of ourselves. We want our … Continue reading →

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Love & Conscience: Some of my favorite Martin Luther King Jr quotes

Posted on January 16, 2012 by John

 To actually genuinely love another person requires that we have a well-developed conscience.  Without a conscience we may feel affection for another, we may say we love another, but we will not actually treat another with love, respect, goodness, appreciation, … Continue reading →

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Love, Gratitude, and Perspective

Posted on January 11, 2012 by John

Love is not primarily about how another makes us feel or what he or she does for us; it’s about how we show up to a relationship and treat another human being—gratefully or ungratefully; as someone valuable—nay, invaluable and priceless … Continue reading →

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How To Fall In Love Again (updated 1/10/12)

Posted on January 10, 2012 by John

“I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person. But I do know that if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after … Continue reading →

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Happy Birthday: Intimacy & the Birth of One’s (Deepest) Self

Posted on January 9, 2012 by John

This is what intimacy is all about, in my opinion: it’s about having some real depth to oneself, continuing to develop your own depths, yet finding another who is also similarly and compatibly deep, and sharing your depth and exploring … Continue reading →

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Love Is More Than A Feeling—Much More Than A Feeling; It’s A Virtue

Posted on January 5, 2012 by John

. . One of the things that we as a culture have forgotten (did we ever really know it? Has any culture every really known it?) is that love is much more than just a feeling. Love is equally, if … Continue reading →

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Dedication to Truth & Love versus a Dedication to Comfort & Lies & a Lack of Love

Posted on January 1, 2012 by John

Our capacity to love–to truly Love ourselves or our partner or children, et cetera–is inexorably connected to our dedication to truth and reality and to truly growing up.  If we’re not more dedicated to truth than our own comfort, if … Continue reading →

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