Category Archives: Love is an Act of Will

The Marriage Box. (Relationships Are About What We Put Into Them, Not What We Get Out of Them)


“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a … Continue reading

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The Heart of Love: Who to Exclude & Why


. . For those of us who are truly trying to grow spiritually, the question of “who am I to love and how?”—and its inverse, “who am I not to love or not to give my attention and care to … Continue reading

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When It Comes to Love, We ALL Start Out As Beginners . . .


When it comes to love, we all start out as beginners. It’s like picking up a tennis racquet for the first time. We may like to think that we already know how to hit the ball, and that with a … Continue reading

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It Changes EVERYTHING! (part 2)


I was reading through another blog this morning, and as I read through one of her posts I came across the following paragraph and I thought it to be very wise and well-stated. And then I just started writing my … Continue reading

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It changes EVERYTHING!


There seems to be a double standard at the heart of most intimate relationships, and that is that we tend to consistently expect the best for ourselves while not nearly as often expecting the best out of ourselves. We want our … Continue reading

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How To Fall In Love Again (updated 1/10/12)


“I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person. But I do know that if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after … Continue reading

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Happy Birthday: Intimacy & the Birth of One’s (Deepest) Self


This is what intimacy is all about, in my opinion: it’s about having some real depth to oneself, continuing to develop your own depths, yet finding another who is also similarly and compatibly deep, and sharing your depth and exploring … Continue reading

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The Representative & As Good As It Gets


Most people enter into relationships as a more or less untenable or false version of themselves—the curb appeal version of themselves; what Chris Rock calls the “representative” (see 2:10-2:40 of the following clip — [caution: strong language!])— Relationships—easy to get into, … Continue reading

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Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t


(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only if—if—we  develop and exercise … Continue reading

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How Free Are Any of Us Really To Choose Love over Fear or What’s Truly Good for Us over What Feels Good and Only Temporarily So?


“The truth is that we are not yet free; we have merely achieved the freedom to be free.” – Nelson Mandela The following is abridged and adapted (meaning I’ve edited the heck out of it and added to it and … Continue reading

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