Category Archives: Antilove

Is it Possible to Lie & Deceive Someone We Love?


Is it possible to lie and deceive someone we love? One of the blogs I read on occasion (http://relationshipremedy.com/2015/01/28/sex-lies-and-the-truth/) asked a question similar to that asked above. And the short answer is: No, of course not. And the longer answer … Continue reading

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When It Comes to Love, We ALL Start Out As Beginners . . .


When it comes to love, we all start out as beginners. It’s like picking up a tennis racquet for the first time. We may like to think that we already know how to hit the ball, and that with a … Continue reading

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It changes EVERYTHING!


There seems to be a double standard at the heart of most intimate relationships, and that is that we tend to consistently expect the best for ourselves while not nearly as often expecting the best out of ourselves. We want our … Continue reading

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Dedication to Truth & Love versus a Dedication to Comfort & Lies & a Lack of Love


Our capacity to love–to truly Love ourselves or our partner or children, et cetera–is inexorably connected to our dedication to truth and reality and to truly growing up.  If we’re not more dedicated to truth than our own comfort, if … Continue reading

Posted in Antilove, Borderline Personality Disorder, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Dependency, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Love is a Commitment, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, The Road Less Traveled, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Real Love, Gratitude & The True Joy of Life


It’s easy to say “I love you” to another—easier, typically, than behaving or being truly loving to another. But the only way to truly prove those words—“I love you”—to prove our love for another—is by examining our behavior—by looking at … Continue reading

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M. Scott Peck on Dependency and Borderline Personality Disorder


I define dependency as the inability to experience wholeness or to function adequately and morally without the certainty that one is being actively cared for by another. Dependency in physically healthy adults is pathological. It is sick. It is always … Continue reading

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