Category Archives: Intimacy

In the Gap Between Stimulus and Response is Where Real Love Occurs


I’ll meet you there (to riff on Rumi). Or better yet: Start meeting your partner there. Choice is sexy. When partners choose when and where and how they want to have sex, that is sexy. When they make a choice to engage … Continue reading

Posted in Character, Conscious Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Personal Growth, Perspective, Real Love, Self-Awareness, The Examined Life, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Is it Possible to Lie & Deceive Someone We Love?


Is it possible to lie and deceive someone we love? One of the blogs I read on occasion (http://relationshipremedy.com/2015/01/28/sex-lies-and-the-truth/) asked a question similar to that asked above. And the short answer is: No, of course not. And the longer answer … Continue reading

Posted in Antilove, Commitment, Immature Love, Intimacy, Kindness, Love, Love Is a Verb, Mature Love, Mental Health, Perspective, Real Love, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Love Is a Verb (“I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married—The Real Truth About Love”)


. I am going to reblog a very honest and nicely-written article with the attention-grabbing perhaps even somewhat shocking title of “I Didn’t Love My Wife When We Got Married” (The Real Truth About Love) ” by Elad Nehorai (the … Continue reading

Posted in "The Five Love Languages", Elad Nehorai, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love Is a Verb, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Examined Life, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

How to Be Truly Happy In Life — And How & When to Start


. We’ll worth the watch.  It’s how a real sense of community and brotherhood/sisterhood begins — by really sharing what’s affected us (affecting us) deeply. I often wonder when I’m interacting with some people, have they ever lost anyone?  How … Continue reading

Posted in Authenticity, Bonding, Community, Death, Friendship, Intimacy, Kindness, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Perspective, The Examined Life, Truth, Vulnerability | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Love *Is* Difficult


. Love is difficult. It is difficult to learn how to really love another person. It is difficult to learn how to love oneself. Loving another means caring deeply for that person, being good to that person, wanting the best … Continue reading

Posted in Difficulty, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is Not a Feeling, Mental Health, Real Love, Rilke, Truth, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments

Thoreau on Love


Love is a severe critic.  Hate (as well as self-centeredness and self-interest) can pardon more than love.  The heart is blind; but Love is not blind.  None of the gods is so discriminating.  We may love and not elevate one … Continue reading

Posted in Conscience, Courage, Intimacy, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Thoreau, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , | 6 Comments

How Close Does the Dragon’s Spume Have to Come to You, to Me, to Any of Us, Before We “Get It”?


“If You Knew” – Ellen Bass What if you knew you’d be the last to touch someone? If you were taking tickets, for example, at the theater, tearing them, giving back the ragged stubs, you might take care to touch … Continue reading

Posted in "If You Knew", Death, Ellen Bass, Gurdjieff, Honesty, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Mental Health, Real Love, Truth, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 12 Comments

The Ego versus the Soul in Relationships


. For the ego, all relationships are ultimately recreational. They exist to accessorize the ego, add fun, gratification, entertainment, pleasure, comfort, convenience, utility to a person’s life, to provide escape. They are not there to add depth, challenge, greater awareness, … Continue reading

Posted in "If the Buddha Dated", "Real", "The Velveteen Rabbit", Charlotte Kasl, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Margery Williams, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

Romantic Love Dies from a Lack of Love


. “Love never dies a natural death. It dies because we don’t know how to replenish its source. It dies of blindness and errors and betrayals. It dies of illness and wounds; it dies of weariness, of witherings, of tarnishings.” … Continue reading

Posted in Anaïs Nin, Ayya Khema, Conscience, Conscious Love, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , | 26 Comments

The Brain On Love, or “It’s Relatively Easy to Find Someone Who’ll Say ‘I Love You’—It’s Much Harder to Find Someone Who Actually Will Do So”


. (This is my abridgment of a March 24, 2012 article in the NYTimes. The original article can be found here—http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/03/24/the-brain-on-love/ . I have highlighted and bold-printed what I thought was really interesting about the article and added my own … Continue reading

Posted in "Alley by the Lake", Alan Paton, Diane Ackerman, Interpersonal Neurobiology, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Leo Buscaglia, Leonid Afremov, Mature Love, Mental Health, New York Times, Real Love, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 11 Comments