Monthly Archives: November 2011

We MUST Choose!


I’ve posted today on my other blogs instead of here because thematically the subject matter was a bit better suited for those blogs, but it would still be apropos here and dovetail well with the main thrust of this blog—learning more about … Continue reading

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Why Marriages and Long-Term Relationships Succeed or Fail


The short answer is: it all comes down to the level of character development of the two people in the relationship and the reason why they entered into the relationship. Deeply decent people have it within themselves to make a … Continue reading

Posted in "The Art of Loving", Conscience, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Schnarch, Spiritual Growth, The Road Less Traveled, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 7 Comments

Are You a Reasonable or an Unreasonable Human Being ?


  “In contrast to logic, there is the Spirit of Reasonableness.  Reasonable thinking is just humanized thinking.  The logical man is always self-righteous, never self-questioning, and therefore inhuman and therefore wrong, while the reasonable man suspect that perhaps he may … Continue reading

Posted in "The Importance of Living", Conscience, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Lin Yutang, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, The Spirit of Reasonableness, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Happy Thanksgiving!


Happy (day after?) Thanksgiving! A relationship cannot survive and thrive if there is not a deep and pervading sense of gratitude between each for the other and for life.  Without this mutual gratefulness, a relationship may survive and linger and limp … Continue reading

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Scattered Thoughts—Why I Write Such Lengthy Posts; Pride; Intimacy; Depth of Thinking & Real Change; The Holy Relationship; and The Active Soul


First off, my inner-Nietzsche really wanted to subtitle part of this entry “Why I Write Such Excellent and Lengthy Posts,” but I thought that doing so might be potentially a bit too off-putting to some (considering I don’t really know … Continue reading

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The Representative & As Good As It Gets


Most people enter into relationships as a more or less untenable or false version of themselves—the curb appeal version of themselves; what Chris Rock calls the “representative” (see 2:10-2:40 of the following clip — [caution: strong language!])— Relationships—easy to get into, … Continue reading

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Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy


Intimacy For most people intimacy equates with self-presentation, a process much different from self-revelation.  Self-revelation occurs with minimal to no spin and or editing.  Self-presentation, on the other hand, relies heavily on spin and editing and manipulating and managing the … Continue reading

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Love & Intimacy: Some Basic Definitions


Intimacy Intimacy means self-revelation.  In other words, intimacy requires self-revelation.  Which means if you think you are in an intimate relationship but you are hiding parts of yourself (whether due to immaturity, trust issues, psychopathology, or for fear of your … Continue reading

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Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t


(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only if—if—we  develop and exercise … Continue reading

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Real Love & The Examined Life


We naturally tend to speak to others in our own love language, meaning we try to love others in the way we would want to be loved, in ways that speak love to us. This is just part of being … Continue reading

Posted in "The Denial of Death", Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Ernest Becker, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Spiritual Growth, The Road Less Traveled, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments