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Category Archives: Love is a Decision
In the Gap Between Stimulus and Response is Where Real Love Occurs
I’ll meet you there (to riff on Rumi). Or better yet: Start meeting your partner there. Choice is sexy. When partners choose when and where and how they want to have sex, that is sexy. When they make a choice to engage … Continue reading
Posted in Character, Conscious Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Personal Growth, Perspective, Real Love, Self-Awareness, The Examined Life, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged awareness, Growing Up, Love, Love is a Choice, personal growth, Real Love, Self-awareness, The Examined Life, Waking Up
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Love Means Opening Yourself Up
. . A big part of love means consciously opening yourself up to your beloved and sharing with your partner from what’s best in you. This means consciously choosing and risking being vulnerable and trusting your partner and revealing … Continue reading
Posted in "The Four Loves", C.S. Lewis, Conscious Love, Critical Thinking, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love Is a Verb, Love is Not a Feeling, Mature Love, Personal Growth, Perspective, Real Love, Self-Awareness, Thích Nhất Hạnh, The Examined Life, Truth, Vulnerability, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged "The Four Loves", C.S. Lewis, Conscious Love, Intimacy, Love is a Choice, Mature Love, Real Love, Thích Nhất Hạnh, Vulnerability
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The Marriage Box. (Relationships Are About What We Put Into Them, Not What We Get Out of Them)
“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a … Continue reading
Posted in Anthony Robbins, Love is a Decision, Love Is a Verb, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, Marriage Box, Mature Love, Mental Health, Personal Growth, Real Love, What is Love?
Tagged Anthony Robbins, Intimate relationships, Marriage, Mature Love, personal growth, The Marriage Box, Tony Robbins, What is love?
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A Love Story in Pictures — Taylor Morris & Danielle Kelly
I recently came across the story online of this incredible young couple, Taylor Morris & Danielle Kelly, and I wanted to share the site I originally found the story on as well as other sites I found while looking more … Continue reading
Only Proactive People Can Genuinely Love Others, Reactive People Can’t (updated)
(The following is abridged and adapted and modified from Stephen R. Covey’s “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change”) Between stimulus and response, human beings have the freedom to choose—but only *if* we develop and … Continue reading
Posted in "Man's Search for Meaning", "Siddhartha", Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Critical Thinking, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Hermann Hesse, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, Luke 6:32-35, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Perspective, Proactivity, Reactive, Real Love, Responsibility, Spiritual Growth, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Examined Life, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Viktor Frankl, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged "Greenberg", "Man's Search for Meaning", "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", Albert Camus, Conscience, differentiation, Emotionally Reactive, George Gissing, M. Scott Peck, Proactivity, Reactive, Reactivity, Real Love, Self-awareness, Stephen Covey, The Road Less Traveled, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Viktor Frankl
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How to Fall in Love Again
(This is an updated version of a page I first posted over a year ago . . . ) . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . “I have no … Continue reading
Posted in C.S. Lewis, GinaParris.com, Glennon Melton, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Momastery, Real Love, Self-Extension, The Road Less Traveled, Thomas Merton, What is Love?, Zig Ziglar
Tagged C.S. Lewis, Falling in Love Again, Glennon Melton, Intimate relationships, Love is a Decision, Love is an Action, Love is More than a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Marriage, Momastery, Momastery.com, The Road Less Traveled, Thomas Merton, Zig Ziglar
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How Asking Just *One* Question Can Save Your Relationship
It’s easy to fall into a rut with your partner, to let things get stale, boring, monotonous, routine, to take each other for granted. But that’s not Love. That’s not what Real Love does. Genuine Love is about cherishing the … Continue reading
It Changes EVERYTHING! (part 2)
I was reading through another blog this morning, and as I read through one of her posts I came across the following paragraph and I thought it to be very wise and well-stated. And then I just started writing my … Continue reading
Posted in Conscious Love, Courage, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, The Road Less Traveled, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Acting As-If, Alan Paton, Ayn Rand, Delay of Gratification, differentiation, emotional maturity, Growing Up, Human, M. Scott Peck, Proactivity, Stephen Covey, The Road Less Traveled, Thomas Henry Huxley
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How To Fall In Love Again (updated 1/10/12)
“I have no way of knowing whether or not you married the wrong person. But I do know that if you treat the wrong person like the right person, you could well end up having married the right person after … Continue reading
Posted in C.S. Lewis, Conscious Love, Courage, Emotional Maturity, Gandhi, GinaParris.com, Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, What is Love?
Tagged C.S. Lewis, Gandhi, ginaparris.com, Husband, Love, M. Scott Peck, Marriage, Real Love, Relationships, Road Less Traveled, Romance, Zig Ziglar
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Happy Birthday: Intimacy & the Birth of One’s (Deepest) Self
This is what intimacy is all about, in my opinion: it’s about having some real depth to oneself, continuing to develop your own depths, yet finding another who is also similarly and compatibly deep, and sharing your depth and exploring … Continue reading
Posted in "The God Who Loves You", C.S. Lewis, Carl Dennis, Conscience, Conscious Love, Courage, Death, Emotional Maturity, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Commitment, Love is a Decision, Love is an Act of Will, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Responsibility, Rilke, Sarah Ruhl, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love?
Tagged "Eurydice", Carl Dennis, God, Intimacy, Intimate relationship, John Ruskin, Love, Rainer Maria Rilke, Relationship, Sarah Ruhl
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