Category Archives: Real Love

The Brain On Love, or “It’s Relatively Easy to Find Someone Who’ll Say ‘I Love You’—It’s Much Harder to Find Someone Who Actually Will Do So”

Posted on April 5, 2012 by John

. (This is my abridgment of a March 24, 2012 article in the NYTimes. The original article can be found here—http://opinionator.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/03/24/the-brain-on-love/ . I have highlighted and bold-printed what I thought was really interesting about the article and added my own … Continue reading →

Posted in "Alley by the Lake", Alan Paton, Diane Ackerman, Interpersonal Neurobiology, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Leo Buscaglia, Leonid Afremov, Mature Love, Mental Health, New York Times, Real Love, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 11 Comments

Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy (updated 4-2-12)

Posted on April 2, 2012 by John

. (This is an update of my post “Self-Revelation versus Self-Presentation & Giving versus Getting: A Few More Thoughts on Real Love & Intimacy” from November 18, 2011) . Intimacy For most people intimacy equates with self-presentation, a process much … Continue reading →

Posted in Anthony Robbins, Conscious Love, Generosity, Gratitude, Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Joseph Campbell, Ken Wilber, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

The Relationship Between How We Think & How We Love

Posted on March 22, 2012 by John

. Or “Learning How to Think More Clearly In Order to Learn How to Love Better,” or “The Relationship Between How Clearly We Think & How Grateful and Appreciative We Are and How Well We Love” How we think—how clearly … Continue reading →

Posted in (CBT) Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Buddha, Conscious Love, Czeslaw Milosz, Dr Nicholas Jenner, Emotional Maturity, M. Scott Peck, Mature Love, Real Love, Self-Love, Truth, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 16 Comments

How Good Are You at Loving?

Posted on March 9, 2012 by John

. How good are you at loving? Each and every one of us can use some improvement. To love is to be engaged in an activity that can be done well or not so well. One can be good at … Continue reading →

Posted in "Psychology Today", Elliot Cohen, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , | 4 Comments

The Heart of Love: Who to Exclude & Why

Posted on March 8, 2012 by John

. . For those of us who are truly trying to grow spiritually, the question of “who am I to love and how?”—and its inverse, “who am I not to love or not to give my attention and care to … Continue reading →

Posted in 365daysofcourage.wordpress.com, Intimate Relationships, Kierkegaard, Love is a Choice, Love is a Commitment, Love is an Act of Will, Love is Not a Feeling, Luke 10:25-37, Matthew 25: 31-46, Matthew 25:40, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Thomas Merton, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Love Languages

Posted on March 7, 2012 by John

Maybe. . . . I think that perhaps when we’re very young or when we’re just beginners in love, or perhaps if we were raised in a household where love was given in a very idiosyncratic and inconsistent way and … Continue reading →

Posted in "The Five Love Languages", Immature Love, Intimate Relationships, Love is a Choice, Mature Love, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , | 17 Comments

When It Comes to Love, We ALL Start Out As Beginners . . .

Posted on March 2, 2012 by John

When it comes to love, we all start out as beginners. It’s like picking up a tennis racquet for the first time. We may like to think that we already know how to hit the ball, and that with a … Continue reading →

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Why Real Love Is So Difficult & Rare

Posted on February 28, 2012 by John

“We too often love things and use people when we should be using things and loving people.” “We have lost our sense of values: when your fence falls, you mend it; when your friendship fails, you run.” – Nathaniel Hawthorne … Continue reading →

Posted in Conscience, Courage, Dependency, Differentiation, Emotional Maturity, Generosity, Love is Not a Feeling, Martin Luther King Jr., Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Self-Extension, Spiritual Growth, Thomas Merton, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , | 44 Comments

Krishnamurti on Relationships & Self-Knowledge

Posted on February 22, 2012 by John

The following are some of my favorite Krishnamurti quotes and excerpts that I have accumulated over the years. And some of these may include my own amending and modifications, because when I read, I don’t just consider what the author … Continue reading →

Posted in Immature Love, Intimacy, Intimate Relationships, Kierkegaard, Krishnamurti, M. Scott Peck, Real Love, Schnarch, Spiritual Growth, The Road Less Traveled, Truth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Love at the Extremes: Loving the Unlovable, Loving the Unloving

Posted on February 14, 2012 by John

DEAR World, Happy Valentine’s Day! This is my (brief) love letter to you, to the world, or at least to those people who happen to happen upon this blog. (My longer love letter to the world for the day can … Continue reading →

Posted in Death, Emotional Maturity, Gratitude, Intimacy, Mature Love, Mental Health, Real Love, Spiritual Growth, Waking Up, What is Love? | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 13 Comments